Women problems V2.0

[Fenaughty]

Why is it you find the perfect person in your life, then they either turn out to be fucked in the head with a serious mental problem, move over seas for 6+ months or in my case both?

Is this common or something only I've experienced?


BTW: Yes, I'm drunk and been thinking too much

[C0V3R]

Its not as uncommon as youd hope.

[Sambellina]

Both are common. Build a bridge. Men are more complicated.

[Fenaughty]

I know that most guys think that women are all screwed up in the head but the girls I get involved with have too often got major problems, and I don't hang out at mental homes.

Unfortuanately I get interested to people I work with. It's one of the most common ways you meet new people.

There is normal women out there, I getting the idea that hey are few and far between though.

And yes girls I'm sure guys can be just as messed up but the degree is in question

[SOC]

Originally posted by Sambellina
Build a bridge.

I think Sambellina may have been an engineer in a previous life.;)

[Stary]

bleh.. i can relate to the 6+ months overseas part.. tho I'm not sure if my guy is perfect (he definitely has potential) or whether he's fucked in the head (hope not)

oh wells.. will find out when he gets back (3 and a half months to go!!!)

:banana:

[Cassa]

Everyone's fucked in the head, it's just a matter of finding the ones that put out.

[Fenaughty]

Ah Cassa, The oracle speaks.

This is the age old problem for all of us.



Sambellina - bridges have been built, this is more about pondering lifes stupidity and what each of us goes through.

If any one else feels they have the same problem that is what this thread is about, I want others to voice opions of their experience.
I have an ongoing friendship with the latest of my fucked up buddies but I know that the next may be just as, if not more so screwed in the head.

Share the knowledge of your lives so others may learn, to either embrace or ignore the knowledge is the key to how you deal with the mysteries (miseries) of life.

[Cassa]

Somewhat more seriously, there's probably some facet that attracts you to people that's also part of the reason why they're fucked in the head/like to run away. Impulsivity/fun-loving/left of the middle etc. I know some people that this has happened to. If you fall for someone because you love the fact that they'd be so carefree to up and move because they feel like it, well don't be surprised when they do.

[Sambellina]

Originally posted by Cassa
Everyone's fucked in the head...

Never a true word spoken.....and I don't even have a degree.

[SOC]

Originally posted by Sambellina
... I don't even have a degree

I thought you were an engineer?:confused:

[cahj]

Another shit one is, fucked in the head, and married.


And you cant figure out why you are so attracted to them.


And you still try to 'build bridges' and it still doesnt work - cause women are too bloody complicated to figure out. On one levels she wants to, and on another she doesnt. Bloody hell!

[Cassa]

Oh they're not complicated, just dumb :p

Misogyny aside, I've heard of a few too many stories from friends lately of being screwed around by girls who say one thing, mean another, and act in a way that contradicts both.

If people would just say what they mean and do what they say, that would make life a lot easier.

[Turtle_Wrangler]

Originally posted by Cassa
... girls ... say one thing, mean another, and act in a way that contradicts both...

(pardon the ellipses inserted for effect)
A VERY well established fact
Women in general are the sans-logic.
Very few exceptions. The key to any successful relationship with a woman is a handy bottle of Excedrine (or Ibuprofin, Tylenol, your choice).

[cahj]

Originally posted by Cassa
Oh they're not complicated, just dumb :p


If people would just say what they mean and do what they say, that would make life a lot easier.

Well, I dont know about dumb, but in some way unable to reflect enough on their own wishes and desires, and unwilling to step over their own ego boundary, and allow themselves to maybe possibly get hurt.

So (the women I meet), constantly fight their own wishes and desires, and spout shit, and try to bullshit me and themselves.

Its frustrating. Why cant they be honest like you said. A sign on their forehead would be good. Easy. Just a list of wishes, current status, and sexual preference.

[durus]

Cassa Never a truer word was spoken. What you have brought up is the congruency aspect of trust. Very few people manage this. My GF is an excelent example. She stresses me out and freaks me out about some issue that is "bad" but she won't tell me about, but needs to talk about/around. Then it takes her 1-2 hours of tears and attempted avoidance before we finally get to the heart of the issue and actually get down to resolving whatever the issue is.
I love her, but in this respect she can really give me the shits. Normally she's pretty ok. It's only occasionally she's like this.

EDIT: This just happened last night, thus my need to bitch about it and vent a little

[scathing]

Originally posted by Cassa
If people would just say what they mean and do what they say, that would make life a lot easier.

It'd be nice, but its not even remotely possible.

[Turtle_Wrangler]

Originally posted by cahj
Its frustrating. Why cant they be honest like you said. A sign on their forehead would be good. Easy. Just a list of wishes, current status, and sexual preference.

Absofrigginlutley. Female LCD screens should be required by law.

Originally posted by durus
Cassa Never a truer word was spoken. What you have brought up is the congruency aspect of trust. Very few people manage this. My GF is an excelent example. She stresses me out and freaks me out about some issue that is "bad" but she won't tell me about, but needs to talk about/around. Then it takes her 1-2 hours of tears and attempted avoidance before we finally get to the heart of the issue and actually get down to resolving whatever the issue is.
I love her, but in this respect she can really give me the shits. Normally she's pretty ok. It's only occasionally she's like this.

EDIT: This just happened last night, thus my need to bitch about it and vent a little

Honestly, I thought this was with ALL women.


...Then theres my prob... My girl doesnt really like me being sweet very often. She says im being "mushy." (This applies to manner of speech, dont get the wrong idea...) Dont really know how to fix that. If by trying to make her feel special, I make her uncomfortable... well meh, Ill just have to figure it out.

edited: whoopsy - open tag.

[Septhazor]

Originally posted by durus
Then it takes her 1-2 hours of tears and attempted avoidance before we finally get to the heart of the issue and actually get down to resolving whatever the issue is.
I love her, but in this respect she can really give me the shits. Normally she's pretty ok. It's only occasionally she's like this.


Durus.. I feel you. Happens with me an my GF... occasionally.

I just wish they would just deal with it or tell me whats wrong instead of going in a hissy for an hour or so then finally they calm down. *Hell they even bloody irrational when there in a hissy*

I mean half the time it baffles me. But i try not to comment on it.. lol otherwise :/ it just ends up making things.. muccch more complcated.

[VangaloRR]

The solution to the "huffy hour" is to beat them. Me I'm a BIG fan of beating, a little love tap to the face and no more problem....


But seriously it can be a pain when women get like that. My girlfriend and I went through a patch where she got like that every week, in the end we sat down and thought about the underlying issue(s) that were causing it and sorted them out, since then we have gone circa 2 years with hardly a blue word said.:banana:

So that would be my solution, as often you find that when you get them to talk it's the other issues that come out, not the root cause/problem!

[imp]

Originally posted by Fenaughty
Why is it you find the perfect person in your life, then they either turn out to be fucked in the head with a serious mental problem, move over seas for 6+ months or in my case both?

Is this common or something only I've experienced?


BTW: Yes, I'm drunk and been thinking too much

Number 1 happened to me in my last relationship. THAT as a shock.
Number 2 just happened to me. Except he's going to the UK in less than 1 month. It truley does suck.

[Fenaughty]

Originally posted by imp
Number 1 happened to me in my last relationship. THAT as a shock.
Number 2 just happened to me. Except he's going to the UK in less than 1 month. It truley does suck.

See, that's the kind of thing I'm talking about. My girl fled to the UK as well. and I'm talking major head case with her, she was taking so many pills she rattled when she walked.

But tonight I'm off to the pub to meet up with a girl I haven't seen in 3 months, a mutual friend that seems normal.
I have no idea how this will go but I'm willing to let anything happen.

But does anyone have a quick and easy psych test to carry out on her just in case?

[cahj]

I dont think that there is an easy psych test that will provide an initial assessment. You dont get to find out about half the stuff thats going on until you go and meet her parents. Or previous bf's.

[DrDivad]

Originally posted by Cassa
Everyone's fucked in the head, it's just a matter of finding the ones that put out.

Can i put that on a T-Shirt??

[Cassa]

Only if you make one for me too

[KoinBahd]

Fenaughty, I seem to have this trend where the girls that I end up seeing turn out to be slightly mentally odd in some way, shape or form. The bad thing is, this does not become relatively obviously until after a few dates. Perhaps I bring it out in them, who knows?
I'd just as soon say that they were fucked in the head, but then that kinda appears as though I'm trying to paint myself as a victim. I'm probably just as fucked in the head really. Though I've never had one repulsed enough to venture overseas... guess I have something to look forward to now.

[That Bloke]

Originally posted by Fenaughty
Why is it you find the perfect person in your life, then they either turn out to be fucked in the head with a serious mental problem, move over seas for 6+ months or in my case both?

Is this common or something only I've experienced?



Yes, both in the case of the only girl I ever came close to having something like a potential relationship with.

[Fenaughty]

Originally posted by KoinBahd
Fenaughty, I seem to have this trend where the girls that I end up seeing turn out to be slightly mentally odd in some way, shape or form. The bad thing is, this does not become relatively obviously until after a few dates. Perhaps I bring it out in them, who knows?
I'd just as soon say that they were fucked in the head, but then that kinda appears as though I'm trying to paint myself as a victim. I'm probably just as fucked in the head really. Though I've never had one repulsed enough to venture overseas... guess I have something to look forward to now.

Repulsed is a pretty strong word, and I don't have the experience of that situation. Running off overseas is more a matter of circumstances in my situation, that was closely tied to the head problem. She's gone to sort out some things and low and behold has found someone else in the process.

I happen to be fine with this, and have moved on but finding a person that is "normal" is becoming harder and harder these days.

Is it just the evolution of society that is completely changing the norm and what we should expect from everyone else's mental state?

Who knows?

[jefah]

Originally posted by Cassa
If people would just say what they mean and do what they say, that would make life a lot easier. [/B]

not going to happen :(

[spaceFAG]

Originally posted by Fenaughty
But does anyone have a quick and easy psych test to carry out on her just in case?

It just so happens I do. Check the bitch's book shelf. If there is even ONE self-help book, turn around and walk the fuck out of there. Don't look back.

[DrDivad]

Originally posted by Cassa
Only if you make one for me too

caaaaaaaaaaaan do!


someone get me some of that stuff you can stick to t-shirts and print crap on! iron on stuff :D

[label]

Originally posted by spaceFAG
It just so happens I do. Check the bitch's book shelf. If there is even ONE self-help book, turn around and walk the fuck out of there. Don't look back.

Classic!

[Feryl]

I did the going OS for 6 months thing shortly after meeting the love of my life. That was 9 years ago. It all worked out in the end, though - after 8 years of denial and misadventures, we got back together a few months ago and are now ridiculously happy!

:banana:

[Gruff Nutz]

Chicks are fucked, get used to it.

[Fenaughty]

Update:

She's benn back from OS for a couple of months, I gave it some space to see how things turned out.


DAMN!! The sex is good!!!