Your virginity and its impact upon relationships

[Glompbot]

I lost mine at a rather young age... and I think, up until I was 20, it was still something that impacted upon my relationships.

I guess dating older people made it odd... but its odd when you're dating someone 12 years your senior and you realise you've been sexually active for longer than him...

Its not something that impacts upon my life now, infact i'm glad of the experience of the last 8 years... but i'm curious to see if anyone else has had the fact that they 'lost it' or didn't impact negatively or positively on their life.


ps. yes, another attempt to get interesting conversation happening in this forum.

[kré]

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i lost my virginity at 19, and after that i felt like i could conquer the world, since up until about 4 month before that i'd never even had a girlfriend. didn't last long though, as i began my decent into becoming the shell of man that i am today.

[Salted_Chipmunk]

I totally regret the first time that i had sex. Way to much to drink blurred my vision, and after the deed was done, she said to me, wow you'll remember be for the rest of your life then if im your first.

I was thinking more along the lines of forever will the memory of the hambeast that tried to eat my arm, neck and face, whilst feeling like i was throwing a toothpick into a volcano. It stirs, deep within my soul to this very day.

[BlueBoy]

The first girl, at 19, was also the longest relationship I've ever had. After that the major relationships just kept getting shorter and shorter.

[AntZ]

My decision to wait until I found someone worth it has definitely impacted negatively in my relationships, I know at least two girlfriends that dumped me because I wasn't ready for it yet, and it probably drove away most of the rest too. I kinda feel bad about the girl who went into an abusive relationship after me when I wouldn't have sex with her, but not enough to have comprimised the few remaining morals i still cling to. As it is, I am the only 21+ year old virgin I know. *shrug*

[tikdoph]

didn't last long though, as i began my decent into becoming the shell of man that i am today.Yeah, marriage will do that to you. ;)

[Goat Boy]

I can't wait to lose mine. I hope it's with a chick!

[Glompbot]

Don't worry antz, i know at least one other guy... he's about 26 now.

[Something Fast]

Holy Jesus! I lost mine
Two months ago. Exactly to the hour. (I bet your too much information alarms are going off right now)
I'm 19 now, was 18 and 11 months then, and I was and am in love completely and utterly and I'm still with the woman of my dreams. I'm sort of completely drunk right now, so this probably unintelligible.

[Glompbot]

hahah, thats interesting :D
I don't remember exactly when I lost mine... except it was a thursday after school and I was 13.

[tikdoph]

Don't worry antz, i know at least one other guy... he's about 26 now.
But is it by choice?

[minigirl]

april 30th, 2003:)

[Glompbot]

tikdoph, it must be... he's had girlfriends in the past.

[Cassa]

I lost mine when I was 20, to my first proper boyfriend. I wish I hadn't though. I'm not in the habit of viewing virginity as any kind of holy gift or anything, but it's like anything that's a part of you that only gets shared with a person of your choosing - I wouldn't go telling my deepest secrets to some guy I met at the pub, because he wouldn't realise what they meant to me and probably wouldn't care either.

I wouldn't say it's impacted negatively on my relationships (I've only ever had two including the man I'm marrying - I'm fussy) but it did make me think about it more critically, what it means to me. I guess that's a good outcome, I just wish I didn't have to have gone through the shitfight that was that relationship to realise that.

[wolfpac181]

I had picked up this hitchhiker that was sweatin' gallons
through a pair of Daisy Duke cut-offs and one of those Fruit Of The Loom tank-tops.
Well, that night I lost myself to ruby red lips,
milky white skin and baby blue eyes.






Name was Russell.

[BtrFly]

*chuckle* to Wolfpac - that is a classic song...

i lost mine @ 17, i didnt really think much of it. It was with my first boyfriend, however it was probably WAY too early in the relationship... since then, i have to be in a relationship before i have sex, otherwise i feel a bit dirty and used... oh and i have always done it too early in the relationship.... i have only had 3 serious relationships (3+mths)... none have gone a year.... 11 mths seems to be my limit, i am getting a little superstitious... :(

[Elf_Girl]

I lost mine when 14.. about a year ago actually (im nearly 16 now) to my first love who i still love now :)

[Evil Dan]

I lost mine many years ago.......


Unfortunately it seems to have found me again.

i.e the world has imposed celibacy upon me.

This fact has now been filed in the realms of "too much information".

[Lurgen]

I was 19, and it was the right time for it to happen. Never really affected anything important, although that particular relationship ended in 3 months and I got stuck in this loop of 3 months being the end-point with every girl I dated.

I knocked it back when I was 16 though, didn't feel it was time. Lost the girl because of it too, which sucked because I liked her a lot but that's the way it goes. By the time I was 19 I wasn't in any rush for it to happen, which is precised why it did.

[Chrissy]

I planned to lose mine with a very good friend (who I also found very attractive) when I was 17.

We discussed it and decided that since we were both virgins we might as well pop our cherries together because we liked and respected each other and knew it would be a pleasent experience!

As it turns out, it was very nice although not terribly exciting. I am grateful to him for making it a pain free, easy experience with none of the mental trauma than if I had got pissed and ended up sleeping with a complete tosser.

I'm glad that I can look back and remember it without cringing.

[Glompbot]

Mine was rather traumatic... One reason was the fact that I was 13... the second reason was because... i guess... all i could think while it was happening was that it wasn't what I wanted... i was painfully sober during it. I did learn the value of saying no... and I've become very good at it since then.

later on the whole school found out and i was labelled a slut.

ps. i'm drunk... i probably wouldn't say most of the above

[pinchy]

I was injured at home (mountain bike crash) and well, gf of the time came over during school time and we played "doctors and nurses"....

wtf is it with "born-again-virgins"???

[t101]

Geez I'm a sad sack. Lost mine at 23 (Australia Day 2002 to be precise, at approximately 10pm - finished up around 3 am, so that's a bonus at least :) ) to a 19 year old (his first time too). Holy fuck I was nervous :)

I was reasonably disturbed to find out later that he felt mildly pressured into it. This put a bit of a pall over the whole thing for a while. Thankfully after being together for a while, breaking up and going through a rather nasty period we became friends again and I found out he doesn't regret anything (well, except the way we broke up - that was quite messy) so all ended up well.

Since then I've had two very short lived relationships and I've once again had celibacy thrust upon me. And to grind salt into the wounds my housemate is once again having loud obnoxious sex in the next room.

Ew.

:D

[BlakPantSamurai]

I still have my virginity, and im 17. The funny thing is, i am known in my group of friends as the 'Group Bicycle'. Mainly because the reckon that since i have been in 7 relationships in the past 2 years, everyone has had a ride and a few of these people have been friends of mine. If everyone has had a ride, why am i still a virgin? Go figure.....

[Fuzzy Dice]

well, i was 15. Negative impact? hmm. Not really. No, it in no way hampers my relationships. It's an interesting thing to be someone's first at this age (22, near 23) when sex isn't a big deal to you anymore, though.

"You should know something, I'm a virgin."
"They still make those?"

I kid, I kid.

I don't sleep with anyone I'm not dating, and I have a mandatory two week minimum period of celibacy with said person so I can establish a rating on their level of crazy. I don't like crazy. Sex with crazy, while it can be excellent, ususally just exacerbates crazy. Masturbation is better than exacerbation.

[SamBo]

wow... some people here lost it rather young...
I lost mine when I was 20. No regrets about it really.
My first time was nothing special really to be honest. Both myself and my girlfriend at the time were virgins and we were both really nervous. I still remember it in clear detail though, so although it wasn't good, it certainly was special and memorable.
As to how it effects relationships now, well I don't think it does. Should I happen to be with someone who doesn't want sex and wants to remain a virgin, well so be it.
As long as sex isn't the basis of a relationship then I see no problem with it at all.

[Up_All_Night]

I have to say i think it does play a factor if the people you are with are in different situations.
Not much experience and then you're with someone with experience, you have to

the girl i lost mine to was an ex g/f who i did love but not when it happened, but she had been with a few guys before, but was emotional frigid so sex for her wasnt ever anything great.. I was the, gotten with many chicks, drunken done stuff but never all the way guy that had the, oh he wouldnt be a virgin thing going, but yeah i just acted as i was experienced or never said anything to the contrary...I wasnt nervous, but yeah our sex life was terrible... Key issues like fore play and, getting it in, blah blah were a bit.... but yeah... even when things had been worked out alot more it was so shit, we actually went back and after our shit sex did the more steps that you'd progress to before u have sex which helped heaps, i so reckonmend this. Dont just jump in the deep end .. but at the end it got ok but we ended. its a shame cause i did love her heaps by the end but its good our realtionship wasnt sex based. Funny thing was, next girlfriend, went striaght into it, awesome sex, not a single problem... Which i find so odd, and yeah ever since then its been a while now, its always been really fine, not a single hiccup...

i dunno i guess my point is i dont recknoment being oh i'm 18 i better go have sex and then just hoping in bed, to do it. you so need the build up. But yeah after that ya fine :)

[durus]

I lost it when i was 15 or 16. It has had a bit of a negative impact because I've wound up having quite a few girlfriends and this has made some of them insecure. It's a bit frustrating because I would like to be open and honest but then they get all insecure and it fucks things up.
Most recent GF is a virgin and we were together for 2 years. In the end the not having sex became a bit of an issue for her. I wasn't prepared to sleep with her because she would never say she wanted to do it while sober (drunk is a bit of a different story). It became an issue because she felt I didn't want to commit to her.

I used to have a rule of no more virgin girlfriends (i've unintentionally had a few). I'm reinstating the rule now and I'm also adding in Fuzzy Dice's rule about the two weeks. I desperately need to reduce the amount of crazy in my relationships.

[MaJeztik]

I had picked up this hitchhiker that was sweatin' gallons
through a pair of Daisy Duke cut-offs and one of those Fruit Of The Loom tank-tops.
Well, that night I lost myself to ruby red lips,
milky white skin and baby blue eyes.






Name was Russell.
ahaha i love bloodhound gang.

I lost mine when i was 17. If i could get it back off the slut I gave it to I would.

I miss her, but my aim will get better one day.

[chip256]

Still have mine and I'm 21 now. Don't think it's affected anything. Thanks to the Curse of the Geek, I've yet to get a girlfriend. I know a few nice girls, but my lacklustre people skills keep me from asking any of them out.

Something to think about. If they call it 'Sweet 16 and never been kissed', what does that make 21 and never been kissed? (apart from possibly dumb :( )

[Ic3]

I was 20 when I lost mine, with my then girlfriend of a month. It probably would have been earlier with her, but she decided to try celibacy for the first time in her life. Strangely enough, it happened after we went and saw Rove Live.

I think it did affect me though, because she was a very, well, adventurous girl, and we went quite far. Since it was my first girlfriend, I had assumed all girls were like that, but weren't, but I learnt quickly. However, after we broke up, we remained FRIENDs. In case you don't know, FRIEND stands for

For
Rooting
If
Ever
Not
Dating!

[Afro88]

I'm 20 and haven't lost mine yet. It's basically down to the "not the right time" thing. I had a gf who really wanted to lose hers when she got drunk, but never sober. Even though we had been going out for a while at that stage, I still couldn't bring myself to do it when we were drunk. Is that wrong? Am I not male or something? I think it was the right decision...

I think the only way it affects my life is the loser factor of being able to honestly say "I'm 20 and still a virgin by choice" lol. Ah well...

[MaJeztik]

Dude, it doesnt make you any less a man for not doing it.

You'll find it will be alot more special when you do do it.

I convinced myself that I wouldnt until i was married, then I stayed at my gf's house & she got pretty friendly so i just thought "fsck yeah!". If i could go back & stop myself I would, coz it wasnt worth it in the end.

[rin]

i am a catholic and had always believed i would wait until i got married. however, i am human and felt the time was right, and i was with the right person. i was 22 and i was in a relationship with my best friend at the time.

i met him when i was 18 - he was in a relationship at the time and i later found out he was sleeping with her.we got together a couple of years later... we knew we wanted to get married (well so we thought at that time). we always talked about having sex, but knew we shouldn't, but one day we gave in... we loved eachother and we wanted to do it... so we did. i am happy with my first time and it will always be special to me.

turns out he and i weren't meant to be... i have been with one other person since.
as long as it's with someone who is special to you and who you care about, that's all that matters. for me, i would have to be in a relationship with the person. as to when it happens in the relationship - when it feels right. sex isn't only a physical thing, but an emotional thing. .. it's amazing when you have that emotional connection with someone... it makes the experience a whole lot more intense and pleasurable...

[wolfpac181]

For reals.....

my bud's GF.
Found out my old friend stole my Nintendo, so I did his gal to get back at him:D
man was he pissed. oh, I was like 13-14


Second time... 14, with a long term GF; totally makes up for it.

[Necron]

Lost mine at 16, I regret it plenty. Especially now that Im with someone that I really care about. She lost hers to me, and unfortunately I could not do the same (i know this sounds pretty stupid) but that is just the way I feel, I couldnt Give her what she gave me.

[batgrrrl]

Mine was 15 with a girl a few years older..

Never slept with a guy... meh..

[gooey]

lost mine when i was 17. it was fun but fumbling.

[Cpt Jellybean]

I can't remember where I put the damn thing, NO I don't remember where I saw it last!!

[hazza]

uhh i was 16/17 ? she was 29... u all know the story.

i had an ex girlfriend who wouldnt sleep with me i was a virgin at the time, and she didnt think she was good enough to be my first (i hate chics thinking). i took my other ex's virginity though and hopefully it hasnt had a negative impact on her... im scared i might have turned her into a hoe bag though :(

[TheAwesome]

Mine was infront of the TV with a box of tissues to some asian chick on SBS..........

But seriously. Im still a virgin and I am 21!! I dont think its just something you 'give away'. I think there is a price that needs to be paid for it, and NO! Its not a monetry value. The price is love and comitment. Unfortunatly neither of these things have found me yet....... Found plenty of lust, but not love.

So when I find that special someone I will be more than willing to share that experience.... but untill then, its nothing but mutual masterbation and oral sex! :p

[minorproblem]

I was 16 at the time, was in my room me and my gf pretended to go to the movies and then once we got dropped off walked back to my house where my parents had gone out for the weekend and we did the deed though i was so scared of hurting her at first but was alot less painfull for her than i thought it would be. Though we had talked about it for a long time before we ever did.

[polite]

But seriously. Im still a virgin and I am 21!!
So when I find that special someone I will be more than willing to share that experience.... but untill then, its nothing but mutual masterbation and oral sex! :p

You have mutual masturbation and oral sex with no one special, but you can't put your pecker in a vagina until you know you love that person?. Did I read you right?.
WOW!!! You sure sound like a Knight in shining armour riding his faithfull steed to glory. Do it son, practice makes perfect. Get a load off your mind. ;)

[Tintin]

Still got it, and I'm 26. I don't mind. I can do without STD's, pregnancy dramas, especially from some girl I don't know extremely well. Plus, I don't meet very many women, even fewer that I like, and even fewer that also like me. Sex without intercourse can be interesting and with far less of a health/drama risk.

As to the impact on relationships, I have nfi.

[Felix]

Election night. A couple of Federal Elections back ('98). No regrets at all.

I was 16, so was she, both virgins. We thought it was great, but really both of us were crap at that point.

I've been with a couple of other virgins since then, I'll spare you the details of the time the condom broke on the girl's first time. Very stressful.

Anyhow, there was a kind of point to this: it's a lot harder to have good sex if you haven't had any experience. People, be told: Every partner can teach you something; every time makes you better.

If you want to be a good lover, it's the same as anything else; you have to practise. And in my (limited, but not too limited) experience, the more lovers someone's had, the better they are in bed. If you're saving yourself for "the one", expect really average sex.

[Elf_Girl]

I lost mine when i was 14.. and " " to what minorproblem said.

my friend told me it would be heaps painfull, (it was a little) but nowere near as much as i thought.

[Glompbot]

I lost mine when i was 14.. and " " to what minorproblem said.

my friend told me it would be heaps painfull, (it was a little) but nowere near as much as i thought.

Mine was really painful the first time (I was 13, he was about the same age), and it wasn't very pleasureable up until the age of about 16... but I kept doing it anyway... even if I didn't like it. Now I enjoy it and I'm pretty much addicted to sex, and not getting any affects my moods like lack of a drug would affect a junkie. Yet, I don't 'sleep around' and I rarely ever 'pick up'.

Anyhow, there was a kind of point to this: it's a lot harder to have good sex if you haven't had any experience. People, be told: Every partner can teach you something; every time makes you better.

If you want to be a good lover, it's the same as anything else; you have to practise. And in my (limited, but not too limited) experience, the more lovers someone's had, the better they are in bed. If you're saving yourself for "the one", expect really average sex.


Bwhaha, I must be fucking fantastic then... at least according to my ex's I am, but they're probably lying to give me an ego boost or something.

But, seriously, I agree with you... Every partner can teach you something... *nod*

[Shez]

Mine was really painful the first time (I was 13, he was about the same age), and it wasn't very pleasureable up until the age of about 16... but I kept doing it anyway... even if I didn't like it. Now I enjoy it and I'm pretty much addicted to sex, and not getting any affects my moods like lack of a drug would affect a junkie. Yet, I don't 'sleep around' and I rarely ever 'pick up'.
Bwhaha, I must be fucking fantastic then... at least according to my ex's I am, but they're probably lying to give me an ego boost or something.
But, seriously, I agree with you... Every partner can teach you something... *nod*

Sapia i was the same .. except i was 14 .. the guy was 18 .. he thought i wasnt a virgin, and still thinks to this day i wasnt :p And it was on valentines day too .. how friggen sucky!
Goddamn it hurt at first but after that it was ok .. i was sleeping with this guy for ages .. i had a big crush on him, but i think he just thought of me as 'a root'.
I have had a few partners, but im not a slut and i dont sleep around either .. and it always seems to be i 'try before i buy' (so to speak) which i know i shouldnt do but anyways..
I think it has affected me in the sense that now i love it and can never get enough :p and no im not a nymph, i just enjoy lots of it :D
But everyone has something to offer someone in new experiences .. wonder if i have done that for someone.. hmm

[LeoFlare]

Im 20 and still have mine even though i had two girlfriends.

[Shez]

I think its sweet when guys still have their virginity :)
I stole it off 2 boys :p hehe im not nice arent i :(
But god damn they were really good!
/me should find more virgins :D

[Ic3]

I think its sweet when guys still have their virginity :)
I stole it off 2 boys :p hehe im not nice arent i :(
But god damn they were really good!
/me should find more virgins :D


I'm sure you'll find plenty of volunteers here! :tits:

[BtrFly]

i stole it off 2 boys too Shezzi - the first one was ok, we learnt together... The second not so much! no more virgins for me, thank you!

[Ic3]

i stole it off 2 boys too Shezzi - the first one was ok, we learnt together... The second not so much! no more virgins for me, thank you!

Strangely enough, I had a girl take mine...

[Shez]

HAHA funny
I know what i mean but i dont think anyone else knows what i mean .. ohwells
I think ive just lost the plot ..
must be lack of sex *sigh*
:tits: back at ya Ic3y :p

[Nalixor]

I lost my virginity at 18! And before reading this thread, I was kinda ashamed about admitting it because I always heard tell of people losing it at 14 and 15 and whatever, and I hadnt. Anyway, it was to the person I am currently engaged to, and I have not regretted it one bit. Lasted all of two and a half seconds, but it seemed like two and a half hours! Or something, anyway. ;) This is incidentally, the first real relationship I have been in, and we've been together for over two years now, so its going REALLY well.

[Springer]

My first and second and third I was all drunk... which sucks, cause I dont really like drinking at all.. :/

(edit: do drunken times count?)

[nerdboy]

I was 17, she was a bit older. Really she did make it quite easy. It was at a party and it was neither detrimental nor grand. It was simply an event. No regrets.

[Quasi]

I'm 34 and still have it... kill me now.
Seriously though... leaving it so long does seem to have a negative impact - one places way too much significance on it and it's hard not to consider oneself a freak.

[s3raph]

Damn dude. I would have paid for it by that point.

[Al]

I was 18, and that was with a girl who was also a virgin at the time... It was 4 months into the relationship which lasted 5 years altogether...

I've managed to shag 2 chicks since then in about a year. Virginity is a fairly moot point to me, either way.

[ezer]

18 still got it with no end in site.....


did turn it down at 16.... didnt feel right, no serious gf's since then..... wait, none at all :spingo:

[Aardvark]

I'm still of the opinion that it's just sex, get over it, whenever I encounter a nice young thing who seems hellbent on saving herself for mr right. It frightens me that in this day and age, there are still chicks who think there's at least one good guy out there and that, despite innumerable odds being stacked against them, they'll find him before they dry up.

Then the other side of the coin, the chicks who are obsessed with sex. Being the one who says, nah fuck off, I'm too tired in a relationship isn't fun. The only thing I remember from teh trainwreck in question is a restless night of slapping a hand off my wang. That's not a happy memory

So in conclusion, sex is nice and all, but if it becomes the basis of the relationship, even if it's lack there of, something's gone amiss and you should get out before she/he tries to steal your kidneys

Of course, if you've just got your bit on the side who fucks you regularly and doesn't hang around long enough for pesky emotional attachment, then all the better

[Shootz]

It was at a party and it was neither detrimental nor grand. It was simply an event. No regrets.
Exactly right. It just happened, nothing to get that worked up about I reckon. But mine wasn't at a party, instead it was on a bench on the walkway around Manly beach. Classy.

[minorproblem]

Fucking hell its just sex its not a rocket launch get over it

[wolfpac181]

My first and second and third I was all drunk... which sucks, cause I dont really like drinking at all.. :/

(edit: do drunken times count?)

So the girls were ugly?

[hazza]

i took my other ex's virginity though and hopefully it hasnt had a negative impact on her... im scared i might have turned her into a hoe bag though :(

yup, turned my ex into a hoe bag. :mad: :tits: :barf:

[johny_roberts]

Interesting thread.

I lost mine at the tender age of 16 outside and in the woods *close to my High School* Great girl and we actually stayed together for around four years. I for one did not regret it *shit I loved it* Kind of glad it was her though because I did not have a clue on what the fuck I was supposed to do. Had a general idea *thank you pron movies* but just a general idea.

All 12 seconds were bliss I must say true bliss.... :p

[metalhed00]

My first was also the girl's first and it wasn't great, but we kept at it and it got better, but inexperience and pregnancy scares hindered it a bit. We did things the safe way, but too young to really trust the methods.

All the girls I've had except one; I was there first. Two of them turned into sluts and got pregnant, one for revenge agaist her then boyfriend! Crazy chicks!

Currently, I have no one and while sometmes I miss the sex and hanging out with a girlfriend, I don't miss the drama that comes from having a girlfriend.

[Blink]

Hmmm...lost mine at 19 to a girlfriend I was totally in love with (it wasn't her first time). It was pretty damn good, as I remember. Then a few months later she ripped my heart out, fed it through a meat grinder and handed it back to me in a plastic bag.

Girlfriend after that was a virgin, and that experience turned me off being someone's "first". The fact she turned into a raving psychopath in the months afterwards had something to do with it I think...

[minorproblem]

I would have to say one of the most awesome things ever was that my gf actually told her parents that we did becuase then they allowed her to go onto the pill, and also she can like talk to her mum about it and stuff.

[Up_All_Night]

I am jealous of peoples who's parents are cool with their kids having sex.
My folks arent, well my mums really conservative. I still think she doesnt think most people have sex before marriage. Some of the shit she says, cause she knows i have lots of friends who are girls, have g/fs, she says her shit to discourage me. And its also insulting like, of you cant be trusted you'll do something wrong. Over summer at our holiday house me and my g/f of the time were sharing a room, with single beds, and my mums like, "we owed a responsibility to th girls mother not to be put in that situation." they werent happy about it at the time, and my uncle visited and apparently was talkign about "questionable sleeping arrangements" to his partner who mentioned it to my mum. Thing is, i was 20, she was 19. I mentioned it to her and she's like, what the fuck, my mum, I dont even live at home any more, i'm an adult has nothing to do with her. Little did my folks know when i visited her family, i stayed in her room in her double bed and they didnt care.
It just makes things more difficult when you have folks who wont accept it as being ok.
But i know so many peoples and girls like minorproblem mentioned above who's folks are cool, girls who's parents have let them go on the pill. guys who when teenagers folks bought them condoms and stuff.
Oh wells i just think its annoying.

[Glompbot]

It was all my responsibility... the moment I had sex it had nothing to do with my parents.

They knew I was always overly sexual (i had boyfriends and went out alone with them all the time and got them into my room as often as possible)... But... they didn't KNOW until I was 18 (when I started actually saying i was sleeping at my boyfriends place).

BUT, whilst my parents never stated it (we're kinda like that, with the not talking about personal things), they made it clear it was my responsibility to look after myself

So it was my responsibility to get on the pill, my responsibility to get tested for STDs, my responsibility to make sure there was nothing wrong with me.

[King_Crud]

my first time was when i was 18. I had a friend of a friend who was quite experienced and her and i had fooled around a couple of times, oral sex and that sort of thing. Anyways one day we're fooling around and she goes down on me. I lie back and close my eyes and next thing i know she's on top of me riding my like a bucking bronco. I enjoyed it, it felt great. That actually led into a weird summer with my friends (almost all girls at the time) where there was a lot of sex and group sex and weird stuff going on. My friend had moved into her own place and we used to hang out there all the time, lots of crazy goings on. I certainly got a bit of experience after that.

Then i lived in London for a couple of years and had lots of sex with lots of people (all with protection) then generally followed that pattern back in oz and then in Ireland. Then i met my current missus and it's been great. We waited a couple of months and she was a bit of a prude but 18 months later and she can't get enough.

Sex is sex. It's fun and enjoyable if both people want to do it. You don't have to be married or even long term as long as you both want it and accept the consequences (emotional and what ever else may happen).

[Lina]

I was 17 and he was the most interesting person I'd ever met who'd cruised into my home town and taken a liking to little me working in a health food shop. I only hung out with this guy for a couple of weeks but he seriously opened up my eyes to a lot of things - and not just sex. He was the first person with whom I watched the Star Wars trilogy in one sitting :D No regrets here. Never looked back.

[royale]

The first girl, at 19.

And the first boy?
(And no wonder they were blue ;) )

Mine was at 16, to a girl I had been with for about 4 months. I wasnt really interested at the time, so it didnt mean a whole lot. It took me a few years to learn the significance of the act, and i take it a whole lot more seriously now.

[LevarBurton]

Don't know..... went to ten-forward, had a couple synthahol drinks, blacked out.... woke up next to a ferangi woman strokin my :cough: visor.

Coyote Ugly for the first time! I rock

[timace]

Argh. I hate pregnancy scares. :\
Currently in one. :x

[say_wat]

The Morning After Pill is ur best friend.

[Glompbot]

You obviously have NO idea about how much damage this can actually do to a female if taken multiple times.

And doctors won't repeatedly give females the morning after pill...


Using a goddamned condom and spermicide and the female being on the pill is your best fucking friend.

[rin]

the morning after pill is available over the counter

[Juice Biscuit]

the female being on the pill is your best fucking friend.



The female pill is like a beast of a pc, tv remote and cold case of beer all rolled into one.

















but much smaller ;)

[Glompbot]

the morning after pill is available over the counter

I've only been told this by a friend who had to take it - she always had to see a doctor to get access to it....

How long has it been available over the counter?

I really don't think its something that should be eaten like candy whenever there is a pregnancy scare though... considering it is a condensed dosage of the pill - and doesn't always work.

[Fitty]

It's not available over the counter in the true sense because dosage (and indeed, whether you can take it or not) has to be determined by a doctor. I don't know the variables, but yeah, you have to get a doctor's OK.

[Glompbot]

It's not available over the counter in the true sense because dosage (and indeed, whether you can take it or not) has to be determined by a doctor. I don't know the variables, but yeah, you have to get a doctor's OK.

Oh thank god.
I was worried for a moment there.

[MC SoD]

No you can now get it approved by a chemist by filling out a questionnaire and stuff (in Vic anyway), so you don't need to see a doctor at all anymore.

[BlueBoy]

Did you have sex last night?
[ ] Yes [ ] No
(tick as applicable)

[Sutter]

I click the 'No' box, but nothing happens.

[Fitty]

McSOD, I stand corrected.

[rin]

the morning after pill has been available over the counter since january 2004 apparently. I've never had to take it, so i wouldn't really know if you have to get a doctor's ok.

And i imagine girls who want the emergency pill are so scared or whatever they'd do anything to ensure pregnancy doesn't occur - even if it means lying on a questionnaire or to a doctor and putting their health at risk.

I certainly wouldn't take any risks with using the emergency pill more than recommended.

I think they need to be more responsible in the first place so they don't need to take it. But i guess accidents happen.

[excalibur]

I lost mine when I was 18 to a chick I had met the week before and was only with twice. I dont regret anything. She wasn't a virgin, and I got one hell of an education. In the 2 times I was with her, I did more than some mates have done in their entire lives.

The only relationship virginity has had an impact on was my last one, as she was 3 and a half years younger than me, and still a virgin. So it became an issue. I haven't taken anyone's virginity yet.

[ShinymetalASS]

I worked in a pharmacy until I graduated from uni.

Morning after pill was prescription only (and going by some of the patient records there are plenty of doctors who didn't mind dolling it out regularly) but about 6 months before I finished up (so about June '03) it was made available without prescription, but labelled. Much like Mersyndol or most thrush treatments.

Classed as an s3. No prescription, but must be clearly labelled.

Unfortunatley I came across many young girls who seemed to think this was some sort of birth control, rather than a last minute last resort.

[Broken]

Mine was really painful the first time (I was 13, he was about the same age), and it wasn't very pleasureable up until the age of about 16... but I kept doing it anyway... even if I didn't like it. Now I enjoy it and I'm pretty much addicted to sex, and not getting any affects my moods like lack of a drug would affect a junkie. Yet, I don't 'sleep around' and I rarely ever 'pick up'.




Bwhaha, I must be fucking fantastic then... at least according to my ex's I am, but they're probably lying to give me an ego boost or something.

But, seriously, I agree with you... Every partner can teach you something... *nod*

I must say though this whole theard Sapia just seems hotter and hotter

[MAX POWER]

Losing 'it' certainly had a positive impact on my relationship [and those thereafter] but because I lost it at a relativly late age [atleast compared to my friends/colleagues] so ashamedly, I asked her not to tell anyone that she was my first.

Well as any bloke should expect, the female of the species can rarely keep a secret from either her mum or best friend [mum in this case], so she went and told her mum the next day!!! Her defence was because our relationship consisted of a month of the two of us working together while I was in a relationship with another girl, then us shagging on the first date after I broke it off with the existing girlfriend, and after her finding out it was my first time, she assumed that I'd dump her for someone else??? Go figure????

Anyway, I found out that she told her folks 6 months later!!! Man, was I pissed off!! So that was a negetive impact because she was asked to keep a secret, and she got a severe verbal/emotional beating from me when I found out that she broke her promise.

But ultimately it was a very positive experience although I wished it happened a couple of years sooner :banghead:

[arsewipe]

Lost mine at 14. The first time wasn't that great, but it got progressively better during the night until the 5th time, which was fucking AWESOME!

Just remember, sex is like riding a skateboard. The first time you do it, chances are you'll faceplant and it'll be painful. But if you get back on and keep riding, in no time at all you'll be doing kickflips and ollies like there's no tomorrow.

[johny_roberts]

Lost mine at 14. The first time wasn't that great, but it got progressively better during the night until the 5th time, which was fucking AWESOME!

Just remember, sex is like riding a skateboard. The first time you do it, chances are you'll faceplant and it'll be painful. But if you get back on and keep riding, in no time at all you'll be doing kickflips and ollies like there's no tomorrow.

ya you do have a tight bum and quite good at using it :metal:

[Haggisboy]

Do dogs count?

[jmoore]

Do dogs count?

if i could slap you with my ewang i would.

i am still a virgin , and that is by choice because my current partner and i are waiting for the right time i think, i just want everything to be perfect before 'it' happens

[mªrty]

...i am still a virgin, and that is by choice ...

same. it ended my last relationship which consisted of 3 months and ended because i went back to america on holiday for a month & she emailed me asking 'where we were going'. i figured if she couldn't wait for me to get back then it wasn't very important :(

[Kyle]

I'm not a virgin and we're freaking crazy. I can say i'm happy with my relationship. Not only do we have a very fulfilling relationship (we're semi-long distance...I moved to college 200 miles away so we only see each other every few weeks and it's easy). When we're together it's an explosion of fun and sexiness.

I can't remember when i lost mine (I'm bad with dates), but I don't believe sex affects a relationship at all as long as you go about everything in a sensible manner. Not basing the relationship totally around it is a good start.

[RaYdeX]

Hmm... I can't remember exactly when I lost mine either ? I was 16 though... I think ? :P

Was nothing special at all, I mean we barely even did it... so I don't know if it even counts, but I spose I did get him about half way in... Its pretty sad.... :P

Then for the proper time when I was 18 ! A girl I'd know for a few months and been out with a couple of times.. my parents went away for the weekend, so I picked her up, brought her back, and we had some pretty damned good sex :) Definatly no regrets about that. We stayed together for quite a while after that,

I think the thing that threw me though, was that she lost hers at 14, at a party in the same room as some other poeple who were also doing it... wiht a complete arsehole of a guy. simply because she wanted to get it over and done with ? That never sat right with me.. ?

[jmoore]

I think the thing that threw me though, was that she lost hers at 14, at a party in the same room as some other poeple who were also doing it... wiht a complete arsehole of a guy. simply because she wanted to get it over and done with ? That never sat right with me.. ?

i think that some people just dont put the same emphasis on virginity as others, i mean some just view it as just something else that goes on , then you have others who actually treasure it and use it as a sign as the ultimate committment to someone else (next to marriage)

i mean in britain , theres something like 2/3 of girls aged 14 have had sex before, and of this like 70% had had sex with 3 or more different partners. what a bunch of sluts!

[eeefreak]

Lost mine when i was 15 to a good mates twin sister.

Thats 18 years ago now and i don't ever remember it impacting on a relationship in either a positive or negative fashion.

I don't believe it should matter who or what you have done in any prior relationships, it should just be about the feelings you have for the one you are with right now.

my 2 cents.. move along now...

[StudMuffin]

i think that some people just dont put the same emphasis on virginity as others, i mean some just view it as just something else that goes on , then you have others who actually treasure it and use it as a sign as the ultimate committment to someone else (next to marriage)

i mean in britain , theres something like 2/3 of girls aged 14 have had sex before, and of this like 70% had had sex with 3 or more different partners. what a bunch of sluts!

uhuh, god bless this country

as for virginity and it's effect? little to no effect at all

[Directed]

uhuh, god bless this country

as for virginity and it's effect? little to no effect at all

Well, I'm pretty sure virgins don't get pregnant. (Maybe once in all of known history).

[ms edeity]

Had it - then lost it. meh.

[Directed]

I'm pretty sure if I still had my virginity it would have a major effect on my relationship with my daughter. and with my wife, for that matter.

[RaYdeX]

Some fair points !

I guess virginity aside, I personally feel that 14 is just to young to be doing something like that ? Sure, when I was 14, I probably wouldn't have thought twice about it either and jumped right in... :P But at 14 you've got no real idea about pregnancy or STD's ?

I guess... I take the middle road.. Virginity and Sex are something special, that you should lose/do with someone who is also special to you. Not as in the churchy wait until marriage sort of thing, But up until about 16 I don't beleive that 99% of kids are able to think about all that properly ?

[jambo]

Well, I'm pretty sure virgins don't get pregnant. (Maybe once in all of known history).

Urban Myth. 'Virgin' referred to her favourite type of olive oil.

[dwarfthrower]

I'm pretty sure if I still had my virginity it would have a major effect on my relationship with my daughter. and with my wife, for that matter.
http://www.hanttula.com/exhibits/8ball/images/ball10.jpg

[ewe2]

Lost mine at the absurd age of 24 on acid with a good friend. A fun night, and boy was I relieved. Naturally, I had a lot of catching up to do...

[Vardsy]

I'm pretty sure if I still had my virginity it would have a major effect on my relationship with my daughter. and with my wife, for that matter.

LOL

[King_Crud]

if i could slap you with my ewang i would.

i am still a virgin , and that is by choice because my current partner and i are waiting for the right time i think, i just want everything to be perfect before 'it' happens
are you a teenager? 'Cause if you were past 25 I'd say "Get over it", if you're young then it's all good.

[Vardsy]

are you a teenager? 'Cause if you were past 25 I'd say "Get over it", if you're young then it's all good.

Agreed its just sex, it not a rocket launch..

Someone wise once said that

[stroakit]

You can do it
You can do it all night long

[Solo man]

It now takes me all night to do what I used to be able to do all night!

[Conny!]

I haven't done the deed in about 9 months now. Does that make me a born again virgin? It certainly feels like it.