Breakup Woes

[BlakPantSamurai]

Have you ever broken up with someone, and then get them hating you about 2 or 3 weeks after it has happened. It has happened to me recently, because after we broke up, i hooked up with another girl, and even though my ex dumped me cause she didn't feel for me anymore, she went totally mental and called me a cocksucking wanker. If she dumped me and didn't feel for me anymore, why did she go totally mental?

[Lioness]

who knows what she was thinking if she was the one who broke up with you =( *hug*

I broke up with a guy once and he hated me so much for a while after that..i remember once he threw a pinecone at me and it hit the back of my knee so hard that i bled everywhere...i had a nice pinecone shaped wound for a while :P

[BlakPantSamurai]

Ouch. Wanker

[Moga2]

I had a girl break up with me and start hating me, she even tried to organise for her new boyfriend and his mates to beat me up, but when i wouldnt back down from the fight with him he left, so i guess he was the coward or was just testing me, anyways she turned into a full on bitch, she's a drug fucked slut now, so im glad that im out of her life.

[BlakPantSamurai]

BTW, Lioness, i just found out that when she broke up with me, she was feeling 'confused'. What the hell does that mean!?

[Lioness]

maybe she was confused about her feelings...or where the relationship was going?

[Evil Dan]

Or it could be some sort of gender confusion.

[BlakPantSamurai]

i dunno, all i know now is that during my maths applications class, i have to dodge her 1) random thrown objects 2) snide comments or 3) punches or slaps. I dont think my body can take it anymore :(

[sweeet]

I had a girl break up with me and start hating me, she even tried to organise for her new boyfriend and his mates to beat me up, but when i wouldnt back down from the fight with him he left, so i guess he was the coward or was just testing me, anyways she turned into a full on bitch, she's a drug fucked slut now, so im glad that im out of her life.

She's an evil cow, he's a coward bastard, and you're better off and have a decent chance of finding the right person for you.

[Evil Dan]

Maybe it's a case of she doesn't want what she can have but she doesn't want anyone else to have it either........ it's just a jealousy thing. People do it all the time, they don't really want to be with you but at the same time they doin't want you to be happy without them. She's probably just upset that you aren't sitting in your room thinking about how you can't go on without her.

[BlakPantSamurai]

Yeah, i did that once, did not turn out good for the BlakPantSamurai

[Glompbot]

I know I've had to hate every one of my boyfriends after I've broken up with them (I've never been dumped).

Its a way of coping that the person doesn't want you anymore either (especially if you didn't fight to keep her)... its also because when you've spent some time with someone, you get used to them... and the desire to relax back into old comfortable habits is too much.

She probably had good reason for breaking up with you... but its the wanting to be wanted and the fact that if you've moved on already you really musn't have meant much to her in the first place.

[BlakPantSamurai]

Yeah, I dont think that i actually cared for her that much, which made me feel guilty being with her anyway.

[rin]

i started dating my best friend 2 years after i met him. we were very close since the day we met. we dated for 4 years and talked about getting married about 2 years into the relationship.
however, i started to realise (after a year or so of taking breaks and having some problems) that i couldn't marry him. i had to break up with him and it was the hardest thing i have EVER had to do.
it's been a year since we broke up and things are really awkward. we've just started "trying" to talk to eachother normally. i have moved on and he hasn't (he still wants to be with me). i know that i can and never will be with him again... but i feel like i've lost my best friend.
i wish things weren't so hard... i wonder if things will ever be ok between us.

[Icky_Thoomp]

BPS,

When you find out the reason why your ex started doing unpredictable things for no reason, can you please let the rest of us suffering fools know ASAP? Thanks....

Seriously, though, it sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She may have been trying to test you, to see how you would react and whether you felt deeply for her. I hate that shit and it fucking annoys me no end when I hear about it happening. It is a dumb thing to do on her part and she should have known better.

path-forward - text your ex and ask if it is OK if you ask her best friend out. If you can, send her pictures of girls that you are about to hook up with. Just so that she is in the loop. Also go into detail about the new sexual positions you have tried since breaking up. That way, she actually has a reason to hate you.

[BlakPantSamurai]

LOL. i actually did that, but not in that way. On the night of our yr 12 formal, that was when i asked her if it was ok if me and one of her friends hooked up, she said it was completely fine, then at the after party she got drunk, screamed at me and her a bit and then tried to throw a empty beer bottle at me. Not good.

And Icky_Thoomp. The reason that one of the only friends that i have that understands chick (mainly cause she is a chick) is because she reckons that she still feels for me and hates me for being with someone else. So in other words, the only way to get her back as a friend is to dump my current gf.

My response to that is the following : Over my dead body. Go and get fucked

[landmachine]

BTW, Lioness, i just found out that when she broke up with me, she was feeling 'confused'. What the hell does that mean!?

con·fused Audio pronunciation of "confused" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (kn-fyzd)
adj.

1. Being unable to think with clarity or act with understanding and intelligence.
2.
1. Lacking logical order or sense: a confused set of instructions.
2. Chaotic; jumbled: a confused mass of papers on the floor.

[King_Crud]

I broke up with a guy once and he hated me so much for a while after that..i remember once he threw a pinecone at me and it hit the back of my knee so hard that i bled everywhere...i had a nice pinecone shaped wound for a while :P

What age were you, 9?

[stevecai]

i started dating my best friend 2 years after i met him. we were very close since the day we met. we dated for 4 years and talked about getting married about 2 years into the relationship.
however, i started to realise (after a year or so of taking breaks and having some problems) that i couldn't marry him. i had to break up with him and it was the hardest thing i have EVER had to do.
it's been a year since we broke up and things are really awkward. we've just started "trying" to talk to eachother normally. i have moved on and he hasn't (he still wants to be with me). i know that i can and never will be with him again... but i feel like i've lost my best friend.
i wish things weren't so hard... i wonder if things will ever be ok between us.

Well, you did talk about marriage, and that does bring up an expectation. Its hard to be really good friends and going out - thats a special thing. Thats how relationships last - beyond the physical there is a deep rooted friendship which will continue.

Guys don't commit so easily, he is probably under the assumption (or was) that regardless of your fights, etc, the outcome would be the same (marriage). He was wrong, and its eating away at him. He probably went a bit too far sometimes and wishes he could correct it.

Thats what I think anyway.