Damn Females

[Ic3]

Yeah I know this posts have been done heaps, but it's my turn. Why does a girl, who I have liked for a while and given every bit of notice that I like her, finally decide that she wants to go out with me, when I'm leaving in less than a month to go away for 10 months! I mean, if she had said this when I first started liking her a few months ago it would have been cool. But to start a relationship and then have it broken up because I'm going away is just shit.

Why do females always insist on doing these things?

[Tintin]

27 days is more than enough time. :D

[Ic3]

Yeah, but then there's the 10 months of not seeing her and worse of no sex...

One thing I was starting to look forward about going away was the fact of getting a chance to explore territory...aarrgghhh..dilemna!

[evil]

LDR's exist with the help of hookers. Get use to them.

[Icky_Thoomp]

Time to impart some knowledge and painful experience....

I was faced with the same thing many years ago (1996) and I got together with the girl. All went swimmingly and I thought I had found "The One". We agreed to keep the relationship going and that I wasn't to fuck any and everything while OS. Big mistake on my part.... A week after returning, she told me that she did not feel the same way about me anymore. Could not even call me to tell me - she had to see me by chance in a nightclub (I was on a boys' night out).

So the learning is - while OS fuck everything in sight, otherwise you will end up a bitter, twisted person like me. Its 8 years later and I still kick myself....

[BtrFly]

Icky - i share your pain and condolences... i had that situation... much grrr... but anyway...

seriously, girls have to be sure you arent going to fuck them over, because ultimately things wither and die.... dont be a fucktard is my useful word for the day...

[imp]

I think it's more a bad situation than a bad woman. I've beenin this one before and I have to say I DID feel shitty at the guy but in the end it wasn't anyones fault. It was just something that happened.

I met a guy who worked for a vender a while ago. Back in Feb this year I think. Anyways, we started e-mailing back and forth after meeting up on a vender/customer outing to the cricket. After a while we decide to go on a date. I was really really excited and even wore nice underwear to work. Don't ask me how that relates but it does.

Anyways that day he calls me and says "I've been transferred to England" so I'm a bit bummed. He is due to leave in less than 1 month and I have a date with him that night.

I decided I wanted to be with him no matter what and went on the date. One thing led to another and much "fun" was had but in the end we decided to not see each other anymore before he went OS. It sucked and i still miss and think of him a lot.

So after being through that I really sympathise, but don't blame us women ;)

[MisterBishi]

Moved to the 'All men/women/hermaphrodites are bastards' forum.

[Ic3]

To give an update. We have decided to see what happens between us, but i'll keep you all updated on what happens when i do go away!

[sperm]

seriously, girls have to be sure you arent going to fuck them

hee hee, what a quote out of context ! :D


My advice (tho you would be a fool to listen,) is to live in the moment.
You would regret knocking her back even for just a month - go for it.

The whole going away thing probably made her realise you wouldnt be around/taken for granted.


But staying true while away is just wrong, evil and bad.
I say its a relationship while its on, and then try to pick things up when you return. But during the interim the relationship cannot be expected to endure. :fu:

[Ic3]

But staying true while away is just wrong, evil and bad.
I say its a relationship while its on, and then try to pick things up when you return. But during the interim the relationship cannot be expected to endure.

That's kinda what i thought, and after speaking to her, we'll see what happens when i get back..the thing is that I have liked her for a while..so it's not like I'm starting completely new with her..

[King_Crud]

going overseas is one big fuckfest. It doesn't come around that often so you'd better make to most of it. Just decide that what ever the other person doesn't know about what happened on your trip never happend

[Lurgen]

Consider your departure the ultimate in playing hard to get. Chicks always go for the guys they think won't say yes for some stupid reason. Like the fat ugly abusive guys with the gorgeous girlfriends...

Take her with you though, that's always an option. Think of it as adventure!

If you don't take her with you, don't count on the long-distance thing working out unless you return to her once a month to remind her how wonderful you are. That sort of relationship is high-risk - only one of you has to quietly give up on it for both people to suffer bigtime, and you won't really know for sure until you return 10 months later.

Seriously, if you think she might be The One, ask her to come with you. It's a risk, but so is breathing.

[Lurgen]

going overseas is one big fuckfest. It doesn't come around that often so you'd better make to most of it. Just decide that what ever the other person doesn't know about what happened on your trip never happend

That's certainly the case when you're younger, but once you decide to settle down with somebody it ceases to be the case. Instead, it becomes an opportunity for doubt and mis-trust to creep into a relationship. Especially if you deserve the mis-trust... chicks can figure these things out themselves sometimes. Other times we're stupid enough to let something slip.

If she's someone you want to be serious about (and you expect her not to fuck around behind your back while you're away), at least have the decency to keep your dick out of other girls.