Being led on

[KoinBahd]

Up until I met my current girlfriend, I had been led on repeatedly by girls. The first time was in high school where this girl dropped several hints and my mate agreed that she was (he had a better radar for these things as I tend to be completely oblivious). I worked up the courage to ask her out and the "just friends" speech ensued. The next day I turn up to school and everyone knows about it - the cow told everybody... what the?!?! Then it was girls at uni, girls at work... Anyone else been there?

Long story short, my girlfriend reckons some girls do this because they like the attention - even if they're not interested in the guy. Girls, is this true? If so, I reckon that's messed up. Say you're not interested and let the poor buggers move on to being infatuated with some other girl. Find confidence boosters elsewhere and stop playing games with people's lives (I don't care how pathetic their lives may be damn it!).

/end rant

[Natfu]

Some people play hard to get. I play hard to want.

[STallingU]

How the hell do you write a rant without a single swear word in it???
:p

[kré]

yeah i've had that happen once or twice. the main one was in year 12. but i don't feel like going into the details right now.

[tikdoph]

yeah i've had that happen once or twice. the main one was in year 12. but i don't feel like going into the details right now.
That's ok... we can wait. :p

[Lord_Phat]

women are the devil

[timace]

Been there, too many times to remember :(

[ezer]

im lucky that way, theres only ever been one female not repulsed by my..... well me. so they dont even bother.....

[kré]

That's ok... we can wait. :p

i was hoping you would. when my heart finally heals i'll be sure to let you all in on the story. :fart:

[CharmedOne]

I have a great friend (male) who has been led on by this one girl for awhile now. She would take him with her into town (while she danced all night dressed like a tart making sure all guys saw her ass), when she went looking at an apartment (even acted as if they were a couple) was always hanging out with him.. even called him whenever she had the slightest emergency. All I could see was a 'User'.. she would bat her eyelids and he would drop almost everything for her. He had loved her from afar for years and this had driven them apart previously, as she couldn't make a commitment. Now 3yrs later she was back. When he finally confronted her, (after she went away with a male and supposedly some friends and avoided him all weekend) she did the whole "but why can't we just be friends" bullshit and the whole 'I didn't realise you liked me like that". He finally told her enough was enough and said 'Goodbye'.. And he has stayed strong! she claimed they would still be mates and let her think about it all and that she didn't want to lose their friendship... and guess what.. he has hardly heard from her. She LOVED the attention. She is a 'user'. the more guys wanting her the bigger her ego. She is driven on people wanting her. Girls like this only like the attention off anyone. They always want someone to help them, drive them, bail them out, fight for them and admire them. These girls are the one's who will end up driving anyone decent away with their selfishness and shallow life. And my friend, well he is too good for a bitch like that.

All I can say is If you have a good female friend, who you trust and she tells you to be weary, or that the girl is a 'User'.. LISTEN CLOSELY.

[Kez]

Ha!

My previous g/f led me on for about 1.5 months, till I released (After much coaxing from my friends) what was going on... I dumped her at a Nova 969 pepsi party, on the radio... all that was heard was "[g/f's name] I dont want you to speak to me any more... and the next song is..."....

The beuty was that everyone congratulated me afterwards, and that she was at the party right in front of me :)....

It really shat me of how she played with my feelings... I havent spoken to her again... and she still does it, getting guys attention all the time... and her most recent boyfriend... the one she "loved"... she dumped him, now that she has a car..... :p...

[minorproblem]

Attention thats all they are ever after if you ever find a girl who can look after herself and doesnt need you every second then she probibly use to be a man.

[Up_All_Night]

when i was younger i felt the led on thing.
But best advice i can give, if you like someone, do something about it at at the start!
dont befriend them for a few months then say something. Relationships most of the time, happened soonish after meeting.
there's a part of people who like people, dont want to loose them so prefere freindship, but if after first meeting somehting was done things may be different.

there are teases who love it though as mentioned. but i do believe alot of people its honesty they dont mean to.

Also guys cant not take the blame for this. For not being honest about it early, not doing something and have to realise its not always the girls fault if she doesnt like them back. Some guys when a girl is nice to them, automatically assume they like them, so not true. I've done it to girls myself, just been nice friends, and they've liked me and been pissed when i didnt want to be with them.


whats a bad situation. A good friend of mine(a chick) moved in with a good friend of hers(a guy) and his sister and his sisters b/f. Anyways He 5 months later confessed his undying love for my friend and how he has for ages. And of course my friend is not happy at all, and its made life at the house horrible for her. But she's stuck there. Now how dishonest and terrible of this guy is that? Putting her in that situation because he just assumed and worked things to get her in a situation like that. Cause he just worked out in his head they'd get together. Which isnt what she wanted. She's just a really nice friendly sweet girl. That sort of thing is inexcusable. Also what this guy does, ages ago when they were drunk, something happened, they just never tlaked about it, pretended didnt happen... my guess is she was para and he made a move then after didnt have guts and she wasnt interested and he knew. But he brags about it. and also talks about the girl to people, in ways as if she almost is his girlfriend. Its terirble, hate guys like this. But you just know he'd be crying the victim he was lead on.

[Girl.]

I'd have to say, I don't think this particular sin is confined to girls. I've come across guys who like to make girls think that they're interested in them, but as soon as the girl acts on it, the guy loses all interest and moves on.

Whether male or female, anyone who plays that kind of game does it for the attention. End of story.

[reaperman]

As I've mentioned before, I have had terrible luck with women. An example of this happened on the long weekend.

Went out with some work mates on friday night to a pub in the city (can't remember the name, don't go into the city much). During the night I saw a chick giving me the "hey" look. So after much coaxing from these work mates, I went over and started up a conversation with her. We seemed to get along well, and decided to meet for a movie the next day. We took each others numbers in case either of us decided to back out at the last minute.

So the next day I'm burning time till the rendevous by playing PS2, when I get a phone call from one of my mates asking me to come along to an all night General's network game. I say maybe after the meeting ,and tell him about what happened, and he tells me to go for it and if i show, i show (don't worry, this comes into play later on).

So i go to the rendevous and wait a half hour past when we were supposed to meet, then decide to give her a call. A guy answers who tells me that not only does he not know this girl, but that he has had a number of phone calls from guys asking for her over the past couple of months. This pissed me off no end as I thought it went really well on friday night.

Anyways I shrugged it off, and went to the network gaming that afternoon, were I was ribbed by my mates all night about it (not to mention killed repeatedly).

Bloody girls and their bullshit games, you want to get rid of me if i come up to you, just tell me to my face to "FUCK OFF", don't fuck me about.

[King_Crud]

CharmedONe, the same thing happened to me for a couple of years when i was a bit younger, except with a different outcome. I was led on, would do anything for this girl, we did everything together. She would tell me she loved me but nothign would happen. Then one day i woke up to myself and said no more. She then realised she did want me but i told her no, i didn't want to see her again. Took lots of phone calls from her to get the message.

Then a couple of years later my mum got really sick and this girl found out and called me to see how i was (it was of genuine concern). After a chat turns out she was with a guy and had been since not long after our friendship broke up. She wasn't happy with the relationship, said she thought of me everyday etc. We arranged to meet up but i didn't go and never heard from her again. Revenge was mine!!

But now i'm a bit older and smarter, I'd never let myself get in that situation again. Plus it seems the older you get the less chicks play stupid games like that.

[lostreality]

i hate cock teasers.

[Up_All_Night]

it is always weird when out and someone seems interested u speak to them and they are not. But meh

[SamBo]

I know a girl who doesn't necessarily have to be the centre of attention, but she has to be noticed. She has to be loud so everyone hears her. she butts into other people's conversations just so she can be 'included'. She also gets annoyed and down if people don't tell her everything that's going on.
I just don't get that.... why do some people require other people to make them feel good? If you just be yourself then people will like you for it... if not, then you're hanging out with the wrong people.

[TK-421]

I was led on for ages by a girl when I was in high school. I hated her for it, havent been able to speak to her since, but i know now i would probably thank her for it. I learnt a very valuable lesson from it and will hopefully never make the same mistake.

[STallingU]

Every girl leads me on. But thats ok I'm a sucker for a nice lady. But all of them say that they wouldnt be able to trust me because of all my female friends. Well look where that has got me. None of them talk to me now and I'm still single. Hmmmm
What are these card thingies and how do you playem????

[Glompbot]

I know a girl who doesn't necessarily have to be the centre of attention, but she has to be noticed. She has to be loud so everyone hears her. she butts into other people's conversations just so she can be 'included'. She also gets annoyed and down if people don't tell her everything that's going on.
I just don't get that.... why do some people require other people to make them feel good? If you just be yourself then people will like you for it... if not, then you're hanging out with the wrong people.

Hi! *waves*
You pretty much described me to a tee. Except that I know who I am, and that is just a part of it.... I do require others to keep me animated, but I don't require them to make me feel good (except the sexing, but we're not talking about that).

I try not to lead people on... if I'm not interested and I think they may be, I'll say outright I'm not interested... Unless it would cause difficulties, or if i'm really uncomfortable with it... then I ignore it and hope it goes away.

Thank you, and goodnight.

[SamBo]

erm... i wasn't talking about you Sapia.... but anyway :D

I don't think I ever got led on by girls in school... my self confidence was way too low... so basically I thought I had no chance with any girl, so I didn't even try or even think about it.
But when I started working after I left school, there was this one girl I worked with who was always flirting with me... she was always giving me attention.
I didn't ask her out though. Then one day she asked if i was seeing anyone and i said no, so she asked me out. I said yes, then she was like, only joking and then got all serious and asked me why i wasn't seeing anyone etc... I was pretty hurt and confused by this.... man she was such a bitch.... anyway... I'm over that now and I am really happy with my life and the choices that I have made.

[Normo]

I think most guys have had this. Just outta highschool i was led on for most a year, before i *finally* wised up and told her to get fucked...i thought i had grown as a man, but bout 9 months later it happened again with some other bird, who said she loved me etc etc and wanted things to happen...i dont talk to her anymore either.

I've wised up since both those times, and dont let it happen anymore... Although no relationships happen, i get my "share" of the goods every now and then...

I'd like to think there's a woman out there who wont be a keniving bitch to me, but i cant help but dwell on past experiences and think they are all like that...sorry girls

[Al]

Never really had the problem of being led on by chicks, mebbe has something to do with the type of girls I go for. Also the fact that I'm blind when it comes to working out if girls are interested in me. My ex gf kept me interested for a while, probably coz she loved the attention... That's cool, I worked out what was going on in the end (after being told by another ex) and told her that she was doing me a disservice so goodbye!

A friend of mine got massively led on by this chick, went out for dinner, hung out lots, all that sort of stuff. He put 'babe' in an email and she went the friends speach. Stupid cow... I mean this mate of mine is a top bloke, got his guts ripped out by his last ex and some chick goes and does this?