Serious Cheating Question

[SamBo]

I remember a while ago I was reading some trashy men's mag (like FHM or something) and there was a survey in there asking people the following question:
If you had the opportunity to cheat on your partner and knew there was absolutly no way you could get caught out, would you go ahead and cheat?

I was really surprised at the amount of people who said yes to this.
Personally it wouldn't matter to me if there was the risk of getting caught or not, I would NEVER do it. I think it's one of the lowest things you could do to someone and it's very gutless.

So, my question is, would you cheat if you knew you could get away with it? Please be honest!

[Scumbag]

Id only do not-so-serious cheating.


serious cheating is just plain wrong.

[dwarfthrower]

Nah count me out. Just not interested.

[Cassa]

If you would do that why are you even in a relationship on the first place? If you decide you want to be with another person, break up with the one you're with. Cheating is a cowardly thing to do.

[hazza]

but like what if the chic/guy was really hot. common peoples, lets not lie here.






yeah joke just incase u tards take me seriously

[STallingU]

I cheat on my hand when ever possible.http://smiley.onegreatguy.net/whatever.gif

[lostreality]

immediate reaction, yes.

then after thinking about it and its psychological repurcussions.

no.

[Merudo]

If you decide you want to be with another person, break up with the one you're with. Cheating is a cowardly thing to do.


exactly right. that way theres no going behind the person's back or anything - and everyone knows where they stand.

[The Avatar]

I would have "sex with another girl" only with the full knowledge and permission of my partner. We are animals by nature and animals like to root around. There is no "cheating" in having sex with someone as long as you do not:

* Lie about it to your partner
* Get a disease and pass it on (that is just such a low thing to do)
* Tell the other person you love them

These rules apply both ways and I encourage my girlfriend to screw around. I am her first partner and I dont believe that we should spend our lives doing it with just one person. Life is too short to spend it entirely with one sex partner, and it can lead to feeling of hostility between people.

Sex is not everything, and it can be a statement of love between to people, but it is also a free, fun activity that we should not be repressing or made to feel guilty about.

Dont get me wrong I love my girlfriend with all my heart, there will never be anyone in my life that I will love more then her, and I will to marry her(when she is ready for it). I have never or will never cheat on her without her knowledge or blessing.

[SamBo]

I would have "sex with another girl" only with the full knowledge and permission of my partner. We are animals by nature and animals like to root around. There is no "cheating" in having sex with someone as long as you do not:

* Lie about it to your partner
* Get a disease and pass it on (that is just such a low thing to do)
* Tell the other person you love them

These rules apply both ways and I encourage my girlfriend to screw around. I am her first partner and I dont believe that we should spend our lives doing it with just one person. Life is too short to spend it entirely with one sex partner, and it can lead to feeling of hostility between people.

Sex is not everything, and it can be a statement of love between to people, but it is also a free, fun activity that we should not be repressing or made to feel guilty about.

Dont get me wrong I love my girlfriend with all my heart, there will never be anyone in my life that I will love more then her, and I will to marry her(when she is ready for it). I have never or will never cheat on her without her knowledge or blessing.
Technically, what you're talking about isn't cheating.
Cheating is when you get it awwwn with someone else, knowing full well you shouldn't be because you already have a partner.
I believe most people would agree that it wouldn't be nice to have your partner cheat on you, so whay do it to them? I personally would never ever do it.
At the moment, 5 people have voted yes, and 15 have voted no. To me, that's still too many yes's for me to really understand... anyway.... each to their own I spose

[abelgold]

Having been on the arse end of a cheating girlfriend.. you know the pain, the confusion, the anger, the cigarettes, the booze, the drugs, the sheer hell of life of what being cheated on can bring.

Couldn't do it to anyone else.

[SamBo]

yeah joke just incase u tards take me seriously
dunno if there's any danger of that ever happening.....



:p

[rin]

i would NEVER EVER do it... if you can't commit to someone, then don't start a relationship with them... and if problems arise, or if you aren't attracted to them any more, break up with them instead of making things worse by cheating...

even if i knew my partner wouldn't find out, i wouldn't cheat. the guilt afterwards would be unbearable! i wouldn't be able to look my partner in the eye... it'd kill me....

when i'm with someone, i have eyes for them only... i would be devastated if they cheated on me, so why would i even consider doing it to them.??

[s3raph]

It really depends. Are we talking just once or regualarly for a long time. And is the potential hussy far more attractive than your current partner?if those two were yes then I would but only if the relationship wasn't too seriosus yet, and if I wanted to continue the cheating I wouldn't string the poor girl along, I would break up with her.

[Budman42]

Do you think the people who would vote Yes are really going to post to this string and proclaim they are a cheater. The first rule you mentioned was not to get caught......Writing about it leaves a paper trail.

[s3raph]

Says a lot about me then doesn't it :p

[Up_All_Night]

the whole thing depends on how seriosu the relationship is and whether the cheating was not just because you could.

[rin]

. And is the potential hussy far more attractive than your current partner?

a relationship based on appearances won't last long...

[s3raph]

Pretty much. I mean I'm not going to cheat on a girl I really like just cause I can. I need a really good reason, and for the relationship to not be that serious. I mean I'm not that big a scumbag.

[Merudo]

a relationship based on appearances won't last long...

Seconded.

Although he may have meant attraction in all forms, as a generalisation - personality, looks, size of wallet, etc


kidding bout the last one :P
:banana:

[RASPUTIN]

Seeing as blokes have a second brain I would really doubt if the opportunity arose if 90% of blokes wouldn't. I havent' but the temptation on a couple of occassions was very very close. Glad I didn't for obvious reasons but I am sure in the right circumstances it could happen. Not saying it would as I basically don't go down those paths when out. Being very pissed comes to mind as one way to slip up.

[Merudo]

well while that's still bad rasputin, that's just more of a fuck-up than a conscious effort at cheating - namely, if you're that pissed, the other person's probably taking advantage of you.

[s3raph]

Size of wallet would actually be a factor, especially if she was really slutty. Then I could marry her and when she cheats on me I could take all her money, and be free to date women who are attractive, and witty.

[Merudo]

haha you're such an asshole :P
thats as bad as her being slutty!

[s3raph]

Hey I'll be rich I can do whatever I want. Besides she should have known better than to cheat on me, she should have waited for me to cheat on her if she had any sense.

[durus]

I wouldn't knowling do it or plan it.
On the other hand if the relationship was on shaky ground and I was very drunk a suitably good looking and aggressive girl could probably get me to do it before my brain caught up.
But sober or mildly drunk there is no way, i've had opportunities before and i've turned them down (even when the relationship was falling apart already). But the above answer about drunkeness is the truth. It doesn't lessen the responsibility for the action, but under those circumstances it could happen. But if the relationship was really good and not on shaky ground, under no circumstances (except SERIOUSLY mind alterind drugs) could it happen.

[edit] I'm also surprised at the number of Yes's. I wish I could get the ages of the respondents. I'd guess the yes's are mostly from younger people (under 20s). I know in those days a no would have taken more consideration.

[t101]

If I was in a relationship, it would be for a reason other than sex. The thought of ruining something like that for something as fleeting as a quick fuck is one I cannot wrap my head around.

[The Cunt]

i wouldn't be serious about cheating.

i'd only cheat for fun.

[s3raph]

Yeah I can see where t101 is coming from. I mean its ONE quick fuck, compared to many long fucks in the future.

[MisterBishi]

There are reasons people do it, it's easy to take the moral high ground when you've been with somebody for two weeks and everything is oh so simple. I'm not saying cheating is ever right, but everybody's circumstances are different and lots of factors can make you do stupid things.

[Glompbot]

No... I broke up with someone once because I cheated on them... even though they never knew when it happened, and probably would never have found out.

I had major guilt issues about that... I told them and broke up with them because of guilt.

I've only cheated on one person... and I still feel like it was one of the biggish mistakes of my life.

[imp]

No. Never. I've had it done to me so I know how It feels like. I'd have to say, without a doubt in the relationship I'm in, I wouldn't even consider it. :)

[Aardvark]

I've cheated on, been cheated on, been in an open relationship and been a man on the side. Personally, I have no problem with any of the above situations, simply because I don't see the point. I don't feel jealousy or guilt, I don't get worked up and I've avoided many a stomach ulcer because of this.

In the end, it's up to the person. If you never cheat, no matter what, good for you. If you cheat at every opportunity, hey, you're taking the risk, you face the consequences if caught. If you're in an open relationship and really don't care how many guys your partner sleeps with, give me her number

Just remember people, cheating is legal basis for a divorce or seperation and if you've been with a partner for 3 years (I think it may be 2 now, someone check up on it), he/she's entitled to half your stuff if you do break up because of it

God bless defacto relationships

[Salted_Chipmunk]

It wouldn't even cross my mind to cheat on someone that i was in a relationship with.

I would expect the person that is in a relationship with me to have the same stance on cheating as me.

1 strike and your out.

[fastfood]

another cheating thread! must be the silly season :D

i only cheat when im the banker. when no ones looking *slip* $100 into the sleeve, no ones the wiser, cos im doing the books!

aaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaa *cough*

[The Avatar]

There are reasons people do it, it's easy to take the moral high ground when you've been with somebody for two weeks and everything is oh so simple. I'm not saying cheating is ever right, but everybody's circumstances are different and lots of factors can make you do stupid things.

So true, so true.

[excalibur]

I've never cheated on a girl I was with, but I've been cheated on at least 2 times, and I had suspicions about 2 others (I've had 5 relationships)

Being on the raw end of cheating sucks. one of the tyhings that went through my head was "Where did I fuck up?" wondering what it was that you did that made them do it.

I would never cheat on a girl i was with, because I know how it fucked with my head, and I wouldn't want to make someone else go through the same thing. The opportunity has presented itself a couple of times, but I turned them down.

I know how you feel Ablegod

[metalhed00]

I've been cheated on and have "cheated" on girls. We were fighting at the time and I was pissed, so I found another girl (whom I had no feelings for or really cared about) and made out with her and fooled around alittle bit (no hanky panky). Not the best time to do it, but I felt better knowing that this girl wasn't going to prevent me from living. Did help our relationship, definately not, but I was pissed and did what I wanted to do rather than sulk.

[stevecai]

Just remember people, cheating is legal basis for a divorce or seperation and if you've been with a partner for 3 years (I think it may be 2 now, someone check up on it), he/she's entitled to half your stuff if you do break up because of it

God bless defacto relationships

Actually, you are wrong.

Divorce: 12months separation with irreconcilable differences. no fault divorce. doesn't matter if you cheat or not. you need to be married 2 years to divorce BUT there are exceptions in certain cases. if you divorce in less than 2 years then you need to see a counsellor and get a certificate of some sort.

Half your stuff: its actually a more complex weighting system. generally you are entitled to everything that arose out of the marriage (any assets etc) and their distribution is dependent on the contribution each spouse makes and their ability to make money in the future (note, housework etc is a contribution, just as much as working is).

On this topic: cheating makes a relationship defunct. whats the point of having a relationship if you'd rather have sex with someone else?

[Something Fast]

I would never, ever cheat on someone I was with. If I'm in a relationship with someone, it is because I love them. It sounds pretty naive, I'm sure, but if I love someone, cheating on them is the last thing I would want to do. If I didn't love them, I could cheat all I wanted guilt-free, but then I wouldn't be in a relationship with them in the first place.

[Aardvark]

Because there's hundreds, thousands, possibly millions of people you want to fuck

There's very few you can spend the rest of your life with and not want to bludgeon to death with a half brick