View Full Version : The inevitable breakup
Aardvark
09-01-2005, 11:06 PM
So you've been going out for a while, all the fun has drained out of the relationship and you're really wondering what the hell you're doing this for. Or you're going out with someone you think you can spend the rest of your life with, but you can tell they're losing interest fast. Or if one of you has found someone else or thinks/knows the other person has someone else. Or you just plain hate the other person and am kicking yourself for leaving them your number after the one night stand. Any of the above situations. Or others that I haven't thought of, I dunno. You know it's gotta end. How do you end it? Just flat out tell 'em it's over? Pussyfoot around for a while, hoping they'll dump you, saving you the work? Try your best to salvage the relationship any way you can? Or start fucking around and being careless about it? Or something else entirely.
Rep- to anyone who's ever broken up over SMS or instant messenger
Afta Image
09-01-2005, 11:09 PM
Tell them it is over, either in person or if your a pyussy by phone......
TheAwesome
09-01-2005, 11:10 PM
Honesty is the best policy. Remember, you dont want to be "That stupid bastard that was too gutless to tell me how he felt so started cheating on me hopeing I would break up with him"
That can really affect your chances with your GF's hot friends later on down the track. If you end on good terms at least she can vouch for you being an animal in the sack (if you are infact, like me, an animal in the sack).
So thats my advice.... always be thinking of the future!
slacker
10-01-2005, 02:35 AM
yeah im with the "be open and honest" movement here. really dont think there's a better policy for a good relationship.
kleph
10-01-2005, 02:40 AM
on the upside, this chick (http://entertainment.news.com.au/common/story_page/0,4459,11894472%255E10431%255E%255Enbv,00.html) is available again.
Honesty ususally helps.
Holy fuck Afta Image that quote is cool.
Honesty ususally helps.
Holy fuck Afta Image that quote is cool.
If i remember correctly that line is also quoted at the beginning of "Third Eye"... a song by TOOL off the AENIMA album
Then again iīve been drinking so I may just be talking out my ass but i donīt think I am.
Munchkin
10-01-2005, 07:57 AM
When I broke up with the guy I was going out with, I told him outright ... he knocked me me out, so that sucked :p but was better than sticking with something that wasnt healthy !
The worst time that I was dumped was a 4am phonecall about 2 days before Christmas :(
I've always preferred being honest and doing stuff like that face to face .. I'd say a lot of 'relationship pain' I've encountered was because some one didnt have the balls to be honest about things ( me included ).
don't screw around before ending it. You want to be able to sleep in the future.
Sit them down and talk about it. Tell them what you're feeling and what you're thinking. Once things are out in the open it's amazing how clear things become.
The only thing worse than being dumped by SMS is by leaving someone a -rep comment (has *anyone* done that yet ??)
lostreality
10-01-2005, 08:32 AM
The only thing worse than being dumped by SMS is by leaving someone a -rep comment (has *anyone* done that yet ??)
or a post it note on their desk or something.
excalibur
10-01-2005, 12:37 PM
I haven't done the breaking up by SMS, but it's happened to me. I've also ben broken up with by email. I wont talk to those 2 anymore, despite repeated attempts from one of them to contact me. She can suck me sideways before I talk to her again.
Aardvark
10-01-2005, 12:38 PM
How's she meant to suck you sideways if she can't even get in contact with you?
Necron
10-01-2005, 12:43 PM
Ive been dumped by a typed letter, not even handwritten. That is all. I have dumped all of my ex's in person. The one I have now is a keeper.
LisaJ
10-01-2005, 12:52 PM
I was dumped via email. How sad is that!! I told him he was a spineless coward who had no integrity or honour and if he was a nice person then he would have at least phoned me. He wrote back asking where I got the quote from. Told him I made it up and he was still spineless and had no integrity or honour. We agreed to be friends. The end.
Reprobate
10-01-2005, 12:53 PM
If you end on good terms at least she can vouch for you being an animal in the sack (if you are infact, like me, an animal in the sack).
if in fact you're referring to your rigorous self inflicted fist sex that so much resembles a frog in a sock.
Only once I've been forced to break up over the phone. The rest of the time I have done it face-to-face. It's the only way, really. It shows respect even though you don't want to be with them anymore.
Cassa
10-01-2005, 12:54 PM
I got dumped over irc, that was my only other proper relationship. What a cunt.
I've had other semi-relationship type things, I'm still good friends with those people as things came to an end with mutual agreement. One of them even came to my wedding.
SamBo
10-01-2005, 01:00 PM
I was once broken up with by lack of communication. Ie, no phone contact, no messages replied to, no emails, nothing. I found that rather hurtful and extremely gutless! If you're going to break up with someone, do it face to face, or don't do it at all.
sperm
10-01-2005, 01:06 PM
breakups ?
Well I've only had 2 gfs before getting married..... lemme twist the stories to make them more entertaining.
The first gf was my high school sweetheart, we dated for 3 years, then in my final year of high school I took her to her debutantee (aussie prom), and she gave me one of those split necklaces; where you are supposed to split it in half and each person keeps one part of the whole. Anyway, I kept boths halfs for the last few months til I went away to uni. Then I sent her a card with her half in it, and said 'have a good life'
Didnt talk much to her since then, and she has just recently died young - how nice.
The second gf I dated at uni, she tried to break up with me about three times, each with a few weeks between. My response was 'no, you're not' as a correction. Eventually I gave up trying to convince her otherwise and just let it go. :D
Can I have my 'bastard' bronze star award now ?
BtrFly
10-01-2005, 01:07 PM
i find it annoying that the guys i want to date want the "break" (you know where they want to see where they are, before the inevitable?) - and the break is inevitably over some medium, not face to face. i usually end up via the same medium, because i dont like things in between. in a relationship i am either in or out. no in between.
that said, if you cant contact them through any other means, then online it is going to be isnt it... but i generally try to do it in person or on the phone. when its not mutual.
TheAwesome
10-01-2005, 01:33 PM
if in fact you're referring to your rigorous self inflicted fist sex that so much resembles a frog in a sock.
So you were spying on me that time I stayed over your place!
Phyltr
10-01-2005, 01:39 PM
This is where dating your subordinates at work comes in handy.
You get to sack 'em too!
You know it's gotta end. How do you end it?
Try your best to salvage the relationship any way you can?
in my past relationship, i worked TOO hard to keep things together - it was a one-way relationship and stoopid me still stayed with him cos i thought things would get better. i had to learn to be honest with myself and see if i was truly happy - and i wasn't. there is no use trying to force yourself to be happy and make things harder because you're staying in the relationship longer than you should.
i have always broken up with someone in person. i would never do it any other way. As much as they would want to physically hurt me (which i hope never happens) or scream at me, i would still rather say it to their face- that way i know i tried to do the decent thing.
i've been dumped over the phone and it's the worst... so many questions are left unanswered and it's so awkward and it's not very respectful at all...
Girl.
12-01-2005, 11:39 PM
This time last year I was with a guy I thought I'd be with for a long time. However, I knew that things were well and truly over when, out of the blue, he called me up a few days before my 22nd birthday and told me that he wanted to end things, then changed his mind, stayed with me until Christmas then invited me over, locked me in his apartment and went out clubbing with his friends.
I called a friend in Perth from his phone, talked for 4 hours, and sat up all night wondering how to break up with him. Eventually, I decided that he was a shitty bastard, so I methodically went through his apartment and collected absolutely all of my belongings that I could find and waited until he came home the next morning.
He arrived home completely shitfaced and collapsed on the floor, while about 8 of his closest friends passed out in various spots around the apartment. I waited until he pulled his hungover ass out of bed the next morning and went to the supermarket to get breakfast for his friends, then I got up, put on makeup and did my hair, got dressed and told his friends that I was dumping him and walked out.
Apparently he walked home feeling shitty and hungover, found out I'd dumped him, and had a lovely big phone bill three months later.
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