Worst relationship experiences.

[Sodapop]

Been cheated on? Humiliated? Stayed when you should have gone?

Please tell all.

Here is one of mine:

Girlfriend dissapears in nightclub, comes back three hours later to say that some yuppie guy and her had left, gone to another club, had cocaine and made out for two hours in a bathroom cubicle. Then she went over and sat with said guy and bludged drinks off him. Joy!!

[Cassa]

Getting broken up with over IRC and finding out some long time later it was because the cunt was interested in pursuing another chick. I guess technically he didn't cheat but he fucking may as well have :grr: I should add the breakup followed a week of him trying to avoid me and me being unable to contact him.

[Bambi]

Been cheated on? Humiliated? Stayed when you should have gone?

Please tell all.

Here is one of mine:

Girlfriend dissapears in nightclub, comes back three hours later to say that some yuppie guy and her had left, gone to another club, had cocaine and made out for two hours in a bathroom cubicle. Then she went over and sat with said guy and bludged drinks off him. Joy!!


Dude, I hope you ditched the bitch.

[Sodapop]

Dude, I hope you ditched the bitch. Well, yeah I did.

But I was a cunt about it. I cheated on her. But that was after she had cheated on me with one guy and about 4 lesibans (that I know of). I was a petty son-of-a-bitch about it. No-one deserves that, no-matter what.

Fuck it. I saw her recently while I was fighting with my current girl, and she asked "Are you ok?" and I said "Yeah fine.", then she stoped dead in her tracks, grabbed my arm really fucking hard and said "You cant lie to me. Are you really ok?". I was completely drunk. I fucking broke down in the middle of the street. She held me and told me everything was ok.

My god, how could she forgive me and still care.

[jambo]

My god, how could she forgive me and still care.

She probably just wanted to get in your pants.

[Sodapop]

Getting broken up with over IRC and finding out some long time later it was because the cunt was interested in pursuing another chick. I guess technically he didn't cheat but he fucking may as well have :grr: I should add the breakup followed a week of him trying to avoid me and me being unable to contact him. Thats FUCKED.

Worse than a text message. Have you considered cold blooded murder?

[Sodapop]

She probably just wanted to get in your pants. Heh...no she was with her new girlfriend on her way to a lesbian party.

[Pirate]

I got dumped for religion. 2 year relationship boiled down to if I'd join the church or not.

[Holster]

I went up to the shopping centre 4 days before Christmas to by my boyfriend a present - he had told me he was at a different shopping centre buying mine.

So I'm going up the elevator child in hand and I saw the prick shopping arm in arm with some other girl.

As you do, I decided to walk up to them and cause a scene, apparently they had been seeing each other for a little while, so I said some nice things to her and made her cry, called my boyfriend a few names.

I then drove home and threw all his clothes on the front lawn and locked him out of the house. :D

There was a fair bit more that happened before and after that, but that’s a long story

[Cassa]

Thats FUCKED.

Worse than a text message. Have you considered cold blooded murder?

Yeah but the logistics were too complicated. I still have several hundred dollars worth of his stuff though.

I got revenge by finding a loving and fulfilling adult relationship :)

[catt]

my first serious boyfriend screwed anything that wasn't nailed down, ie my sister, my best friend and various other chicks known to me. :mad:

I was totally oblivious & as my parent were fairly strict it was pretty easy for him to take me out on a weekend, return me home at curfew & go back to the party or nightclub we'd been at & take someone else home :spingo:

I found out when one of my 'friends' had a pregnancy scare, I did a lot of swearing & a bit of crying but I'm well & truely over it :D as for the guy I'm pretty sure he ended up with something nasty :p

[evil]

Hmmmm worst relationship experience??

Well, some sad cow (aka blondee on irc back in the early irc day's when #aussies was the place to hang out) begged me to stay in the relationship while I went to study in japan for 4 months. 6 weeks in, after I'd turned down scores of easy japanese shags, she called up to say that she'd gotten drunk with an ex and that they had bonked. This was 1 week before she ws to go in for open heart surgery (sounds bad, but it was a straightforward op). Dumped her on the spot and then received angry emails from her family about how dare I dump her before such a big op and that I was a 'cad'.

Turned out that she hadn't told them what she'd been up to. So I filled them in on that and also let them know that she had an unhealthy desire to have anal sex all the time (which she did). Seemed fair ....

[Sodapop]

my first serious boyfriend screwed anything that wasn't nailed down, ie my sister, my best friend and various other chicks known to me. :mad: Now, that IS fucking nasty.

[catt]

Now, that IS fucking nasty.

I thought so ;)..... I'm just glad I didn't catch anything

[Kez]

Hmmm

Went out with a chick who appreantly "really liked" me, and then found out that for the past week into a 2 month relationship she was bad mouthing me behind my back. So in the end I broke up with her at a party where she was openly flirting with other guys. I said "Dont ever cal me again". She called me the next day and a nice string of words came out of my mouth.

I have never seen her again.

[Al]

To most of the people in this thread i'd like to say "that's some fucked up shit".

For me there was the time my ex went spastic (bad terrible things) when I started dating another chick 2 weeks after she dumped me. She dumped me, and then got upset, even though I had never done ANYTHING with that chick beforehand.

Probably worse was when the chick i loved broke up with me and then started dating a mate that I worked with. That was pretty rough. She's a bit of a slut too, so I wouldn't be surprised if she been fucking around behind my back. I know for a fact she's cheated on my mate, took care of that myself. I wasn't the first one either, or even the second...

[thingy]

Moved to appropriate forum.

[minorproblem]

My ex broke up with my over email the day i had a math exam at uni, after i had been going out with her for over 2.5 years, she said in the email the reason was that she needed time alone etc. Then 2 days later she had a bf so obviously she was cheating on me. She was just lucky that i check my email after the maths exam not before otherwise i would of been even more screwed over.

[Sodapop]

Then 2 days later she had a bf so obviously she was cheating on me. Cheating. Its a terrible thing. I hate to admit that I have cheated, but only once. Im now engaged to my partner in cheating. Crazy fucking world.

[Cassa]

Please be careful of what you write when the people concerned are going to read it, Brisbane-style forum angst is sooo 2002.

[locust]

Anybody else want popcorn?

[Blink]

I had a messy breakup with a chick once...she wanted to remain friends afterwards, which I was fine with, despite the fact that she'd been a raving psycho for the last couple of weeks we were together. Then I find out through a mutual friend that (before we broke up) she was planning to go off the pill in an attempt to get pregnant to make me stick around. Suffice to say I refused to speak to her ever again.

The story does have a silver lining. About 3 months later the mutual friend was concerned that I hadn't been seeing anyone and needed some closure, so she invited me over to her place and showed me her D sized boobies.

[minorproblem]

I had a messy breakup with a chick once...she wanted to remain friends afterwards, which I was fine with, despite the fact that she'd been a raving psycho for the last couple of weeks we were together. Then I find out through a mutual friend that (before we broke up) she was planning to go off the pill in an attempt to get pregnant to make me stick around. Suffice to say I refused to speak to her ever again.

The story does have a silver lining. About 3 months later the mutual friend was concerned that I hadn't been seeing anyone and needed some closure, so she invited me over to her place and showed me her D sized boobies.
That is one hell of a mutual friend!:D

[Blink]

That is one hell of a mutual friend!:D

Indeed. I was most appreciative...

On another note, the psycho ex started going out with a good friend of mine, convinced him I was the spawn of the devil and he stopped talking to me...now I hear they are getting married this year...

[Bambi]

Well, yeah I did.

But I was a cunt about it. I cheated on her. But that was after she had cheated on me with one guy and about 4 lesibans (that I know of). I was a petty son-of-a-bitch about it. No-one deserves that, no-matter what.

Fuck it. I saw her recently while I was fighting with my current girl, and she asked "Are you ok?" and I said "Yeah fine.", then she stoped dead in her tracks, grabbed my arm really fucking hard and said "You cant lie to me. Are you really ok?". I was completely drunk. I fucking broke down in the middle of the street. She held me and told me everything was ok.

My god, how could she forgive me and still care.


OMG How can she forgive YOU and still care.
Did you read what she did to you.
Now I'm not usually one for "Tit for Tat" as such, but SHE CHEATED ON YOU. MORE THAN ONCE.

I'm not condoning cheating in whatever circumstances, but dude I think you're being way too hard on yourself and way too easy on her. Cheating and drugs............

Maybe I'm just a bitter and twisted human being.

[SomethingClever]

[QUOTE=Cassa]Getting broken up with over IRC and finding out some long time later it was because the cunt was interested in pursuing another chick. QUOTE]

I have major issues with people who do things like that over IRC. It's just fucking wrong. They're fucking pieces of pond scum if they don't have the balls to do it face-to-face. Be glad to be rid of him.

[Mattryx]

Breaking up anything more than a casual root over any sort of "chat" based thing (i.e sms , irc etc etc) is fucking poor form.

[jasebert]

One of my ex's cheated on me, and I was pissed, so I hit onto her mum and her mum told her when she was drunk that I was hot and stuff like that.

Yeah, take that cheating ex gf.

[ms edeity]

my ex husband was screwing an 18yr old and i found out, took a cab and introduced myself..it was surreal. two weeks before he dropped me off at my mum's for a holiday, said i love you and rang 3 hours later to say he'd been thinking...yadda,yadda. my son was 6 mnths old. blah blah i could go on for hours but actually it was the best breakup because otherwise i'd still be with the oxygen thief!!....(that and i had a long relationship with our best man afterwards....) :)

[Chocoholic]

my ex husband was screwing an 18yr old and i found out, took a cab and introduced myself..it was surreal. two weeks before he dropped me off at my mum's for a holiday, said i love you and rang 3 hours later to say he'd been thinking...yadda,yadda. my son was 6 mnths old. blah blah i could go on for hours but actually it was the best breakup because otherwise i'd still be with the oxygen thief!!....(that and i had a long relationship with our best man afterwards....) :)


Nothing says revenge like screwing his best mate!

[minorproblem]

my ex husband was screwing an 18yr old and i found out, took a cab and introduced myself..it was surreal. two weeks before he dropped me off at my mum's for a holiday, said i love you and rang 3 hours later to say he'd been thinking...yadda,yadda. my son was 6 mnths old. blah blah i could go on for hours but actually it was the best breakup because otherwise i'd still be with the oxygen thief!!....(that and i had a long relationship with our best man afterwards....) :)
What did the girl say when you introduced yourself etc. Did she know you where married?

[ms edeity]

mwahahahahahaha :)

[ms edeity]

What did the girl say when you introduced yourself etc. Did she know you where married?
actually that was the surreal thing. i said hello nice to meet you i'm his wife and these are our children...she said please keep it down people are trying to sleep and he said go wait in the car. i only had the kids because what do you do? but i left in peace because it was so bizarre and i never signed up to be on jerry springer. i just waited in the car ....and took it.

[Serpent_Girl]

":(" at relationship experiences. I really suck at them.

[RaZ]

:spingo:

nuff said

:banana: :1337:

[dilligaf]

Heh, one of my ex's claimed to be preggers.

That is all.

[Whiskers]

My first serious boyfriend cheated on me many a time. I was 16 when we first started going out and did not felt that I was ready to lose my virginity. So he got it else where. 6 different girls I think. Oh and I stayed with him. Until he dropped out of school, moved to Mt Druitt ansd started consuming massive amounts of drugs.

I went a little bit nuts after that. Lost a lot of weight (not consciously- just was never hungry) and cried a lot. Pretended that I was okay and got involved with a couple of guys a few years older than me. I thought I could handle it- but I was way out of my depth.

I now have no feelings about the situation either way. I'm a lot better off because of all these things happening- valuable life experience- Oprah style self worth etc. ;)

[Bambi]

Heh, one of my ex's claimed to be preggers.

That is all.


that is super low.

All of my ex's cheated on me at least twice.
I've HAD poor taste in men

[Whiskers]

charles-camilla-diana

:)

[Merudo]

i once had a bad relationship experience


serpent girl and elf girl kept stalking me


it was horrible :|


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Seriously though, one rather odd experience I had just recently in fact, but I won't repeat it here due to [one member] who probably would spread said information and just incite further arguments...

[dilligaf]

My first serious boyfriend cheated on me many a time. I was 16 when we first started going out and did not felt that I was ready to lose my virginity. So he got it else where. 6 different girls I think. Oh and I stayed with him. Until he dropped out of school, moved to Mt Druitt ansd started consuming massive amounts of drugs.

I went a little bit nuts after that. Lost a lot of weight (not consciously- just was never hungry) and cried a lot. Pretended that I was okay and got involved with a couple of guys a few years older than me. I thought I could handle it- but I was way out of my depth.

I now have no feelings about the situation either way. I'm a lot better off because of all these things happening- valuable life experience- Oprah style self worth etc. ;)
Mount Druitt says it all.

[dilligaf]

that is super low.

All of my ex's cheated on me at least twice.
I've HAD poor taste in men
Yeah, only reason i knew she was lying weas becuase i knew her menstural cycle, therefore was impossible that she was late as she said she was. (She said she was a week late, but wasnt due for another week)

[Manshoon]

Lemme see....high school gf moves in with me and my family after school (her family was out on a farm I was in town).....nine months down the track she says to me...by the way while you were away at christmas I slept with one of your friends.....forgive me??....I stupidly said yes.....and then proceeded to drink very heavily for a while. This prompted her to call me an alcoholic and move out......and in with some other guy.....who knocked her up and shot thru (she miscarried and the guys best mate ended up marrying her).....Karma BABY!

Meh she called me a while back to tell me we could have been together etc....I pretty much said yeah we could have....BUT YOU FUCKED IT UP!.....it felt REALLY good to say it too

[dilligaf]

Lemme see....high school gf moves in with me and my family after school (her family was out on a farm I was in town).....nine months down the track she says to me...by the way while you were away at christmas I slept with one of your friends.....forgive me??....I stupidly said yes.....and then proceeded to drink very heavily for a while. This prompted her to call me an alcoholic and move out......and in with some other guy.....who knocked her up and shot thru (she miscarried and the guys best mate ended up marrying her).....Karma BABY!

Meh she called me a while back to tell me we could have been together etc....I pretty much said yeah we could have....BUT YOU FUCKED IT UP!.....it felt REALLY good to say it too
Hahahaha. Very muchly ownage. Nicely said.

[brotherkrusty]

I am not going to talk about my divorce as it was very ugly and not something I want to re-live.

I will give one piece of advise though...Do not start a divorce unless you really, really, hate the other person. You see the true nature of people under those circumstances.

[sharpie]

MY first GF got preggers.. said it was mine...
moved to mount Druitt.... (why does the scum end up living there?? lol)
9months later... beautiful baby girl...
stuck with them for 6months...
she went loopy = me moving home
dragged me to court for child support = me seeing family barrister, lawyer and a QC = me totally destroying her in court
court orders = DNA test
test = Not mine
me = "fuck off whore and dont you or your family ever come near me again or you will regret it"

yey for modern science and DNA tests

further note
result of final closure = 6 months or so of very heavy drinking and generally hiding from society
3 years later i havent seen my little girl again, dont ever expect too :(
lesson learned= wear condom, never believe anyone, goths are great in bed but prone to psycho
life goes on

[Manshoon]

Another one for ya (Im a sucker for punishment it seems). My wife and I separated on amicable terms....still gonna be friends (havent spoken to her in about 12 months now but thats her problem). About 3 months after we separated she started seeing a guy who I think is really nice and Im happy for her. She drops into my place one afternoon and sees a car in the driveway (not mine). Calls me.....coversation goes as such...
Her: "Whos car is in your driveway?"
Me: "That would be Rachels car" (co-worker who I was car-pooling with)
Her in pissed off voice: "WHOS RACHEL!?!?!"
Me: "Not that its any of your fucking business but I work with her"
Her: "Oh...right....well good then.....is that all?"
Me: "No.......we car pool together as well" (meanwhile Rachel is hearing my side of the conversation and guesses whats going on)
Rachel: "Whos that darling....is it that bitch of an ex of yours"
Me trying NOT to piss myself laughing: "Dont worry about it.....Ill call ya later *hangs up on her*"

Lets just say she wasnt pleased when I did call her back.....hehe

[sharpie]

Rachel: "Whos that darling....is it that bitch of an ex of yours"
Me trying NOT to piss myself laughing: "Dont worry about it.....Ill call ya later *hangs up on her*"

Lets just say she wasnt pleased when I did call her back.....hehe

got to love friends like that :D

[dilligaf]

MY first GF got preggers.. said it was mine...
moved to mount Druitt.... (why does the scum end up living there?? lol)
9months later... beautiful baby girl...
stuck with them for 6months...
she went loopy = me moving home
dragged me to court for child support = me seeing family barrister, lawyer and a QC = me totally destroying her in court
court orders = DNA test
test = Not mine
me = "fuck off whore and dont you or your family ever come near me again or you will regret it"

yey for modern science and DNA tests

further note
result of final closure = 6 months or so of very heavy drinking and generally hiding from society
3 years later i havent seen my little girl again, dont ever expect too :(
lesson learned= wear condom, never believe anyone, goths are great in bed but prone to psycho
life goes on


Twice in one thread:

Mount Druitt says it all.

[Bifrost]

I got dumped for religion. 2 year relationship boiled down to if I'd join the church or not.Whew! You got out of that one dude. Imagine having to go to church for the rest of your life.

I know a dude who is married to this well religious chick whose family is totally into it and they have prayer camp and all sorts of weirdness...I think he's an atheist and he is totally not into any of it, but he puts up with the crap - I don't know how he does it. He's probably much nicer and more diplomatic than me.

SO glad my gf is utterly unreligious (though aparently slightly spiritual).

Oh and I've never had a bad breakup. Actually the longest relationship I had before my current one was approximately 7 days. Never actually considered that breaking up really.

[sharpie]

Twice in one thread:

Mount Druitt says it all.

we had 2 sayings among myself and mates afterwards

"Mt Druitt.. the only Mt thats a hole"
"build a wall around the whole area and keep the inbreeding contained"

the sheer though of going near that place used to make me physically sick for a good year or so afterwards

[dilligaf]

we had 2 sayings among myself and mates afterwards

"Mt Druitt.. the only Mt thats a hole"
"build a wall around the whole area and keep the inbreeding contained"

the sheer though of going near that place used to make me physically sick for a good year or so afterwards
All of that part of sydney is scum. People dont seem to like "Penrif" but, getting there is a hell of alot worse. You have to go thru areas like Doonside and Plumpton, as well as Mt Druitt. Its full of fat pregnant teenagers aswell.

[sharpie]

on a plus side i just got rep for 2 years of my life wasted and my heart and soul torn apart....

seems a fair deal to me.. lol

[dilligaf]

Better 2 years than 20 years of marriage.

[sharpie]

Better 2 years than 20 years of marriage.

so true

only thing i miss about her.... to quote the line excal repeats endlessly "she goes off like a frog in a sock"

[Girl.]

Worst relationship experience would probably have to be the last night I spent at my ex's place -- he invited me over for a quiet dinner at his place, but within half an hour of arriving all of his friends came over to pick up his flatmate to go out clubbing. The ex cracked the shits at me, told me he never really wanted me over at his place, said that he felt absolutely nothing for me, locked me into his house so I couldn't leave and went out clubbing with them.

So I called a friend in Perth and had a 6 hour conversation with him, then I ransacked the ex's flat and collected every single one of my possessions - I emptied out the bathroom cabinet of my things, took my dvds and cds out of the stacks near the tv and packed up everything. He got home at 4 in the morning and passed out on the floor, so the next morning I left quietly and went home.

Didn't hear from him until 2 months later, when the phone bill arrived... :D

[durus]

Been told i got girls preggers twice now. Both times i was wearing a condom. Both times it was utter bull (one of them was such a dud in bed that i didn't even blow my load, i faked it).
on a side note. i'm on a downer after all the shit i went through in my last relationship. while no individual part was spectacularly bad it was all very shitty.
this thread makes me feel just a little bit better, because after all it could have been worse.

[Munchkin]

Hrm, I guess my worst experience was my first sadly(this is the guy who burnt his doodle on the radiator :fu: ). Things were great in the beginning, we got engaged etc. Then it became surreal because it was like he changed overnight. He'd be rough, verbally abusive, and that started to become physical. He was into martial arts and liked to 'practice on me'. I think what hurt me most in all of this was the cruelty. If I tried to hug him at night, he'd roll over and punch me, or push me, and I'd end up with the odd bruise. It didnt start off with out and out violence, but sort of crept into it. When I was looking good, I was accused of being a slut, when I looked not so good, I was a tramp, so I couldnt really ever win.

Im sure the more seasoned partner may have thought ' Wait up, this isnt right, im getting out' ... well in hindsight thats what I should have done, but I guess I felt that was quitting, and at that point I still loved the guy. I assumed it was something I had done / not done, so I tried nice things, I booked us dinner at a local place, but he went mad, and when we got there asked to be sat somewhere dark in case someone saw him with me .

(Things like that were not the best thing for someone with shaky self confidence :p )

Stuff progressed , and the main killer of things was when he belted me in the face and knocked me out. I certainly didnt expect that, and I went to stay with a friend for a few days. During this time I also found out he was planning on cheating, but didnt actually do it because 1) I'd found out, and 2) i no longer did weekend overtime, therefore eliminating the chance for him to.

Things eventually came to a head and he also confessed a fling with a guy at work ! ( Great, not only did I turn someone into a bully , I also turned him to the cock ... go me ! /shakes fist )

It was made a little harder because we'd got a house together and I was scared to be there with him ... he had made threats, said he would come in in the middle of the night and do things etc etc ... eventually he left, went elsewhere, but when I came back from holiday, he had left me a photo of myself with a bullet through the head ( not a live one :p ).

I may have painted him as a monster, but I also realise that I more than likely played a part in this change. Maybe I was annoying in some way, maybe I did too much, too little.

Either way, it was a sad end to 6 and a half years.

It can suck to wear your heart on your sleeve, and sometimes I get bothered by the fact that I allow myself to get hurt like that. But, even though Im generally not optimistic, I'd like to think ive learnt lessons from the bad things I've been a part of in relationships.

[ms edeity]

actually the worst relationship i ever had was with friends in highschool who became really bitchy because i made out with a guy and apparently wasn't popular enough to warrant that!...all the crappy boyfriends and husbands in the world pale in comparison to a bitchy mob of girls on adolescent hormones!!!!! .....now i take comfort that they're all working in some version of video ezy and are fat and unsatisfied. (only the fat part cause it was sooooo important to them....i couldn't give a shit)

[Sodapop]

OMG How can she forgive YOU and still care.
Did you read what she did to you.
Now I'm not usually one for "Tit for Tat" as such, but SHE CHEATED ON YOU. MORE THAN ONCE.

I'm not condoning cheating in whatever circumstances, but dude I think you're being way too hard on yourself and way too easy on her. Cheating and drugs............

Maybe I'm just a bitter and twisted human being. Yeah you are right. I guess the silver lining is that I met the love of my life indirectly through that bad experience :banana:

[Whiskers]

I may have painted him as a monster, but I also realise that I more than likely played a part in this change. Maybe I was annoying in some way, maybe I did too much, too little.

Don't ever, EVER, think that you were even partially to blame.

[Munchkin]

Maybe I worded thata little wrong, but I understand what you mean.

I remember one time I didnt wash any crockery for about 3 weeks because hwewould refuse to help ( It didnt do much for relations, but it was a lesson in mould growing :p )

I always told myself that I would be the 'grown up' in all of this, but sometime the temptation of revenge took hold ... Aaah , the satisfaction of letting my dog lickhis dinner plate before I dished up, or when I got those pesky limescale deposits off of the toilet bowl with his toothbrush .. tee hee !


Though one of the funniest moments among those bad times I remember was when I was cleaning our our gerbil cage. Cheeky and Monkey ( the gerbils ) were running around on my shoulders, and I had let them run around on the floor in this little area of fax rolls I had made for them. The ex was trying to roll a joint, but a breeze blew the paper and the contents onto the floor ... he cursed and scrabbled around and remade it .... but what he thought was lil lumps of heaven were in fact lil lumps of gerbil turds :fu:

[Fuzzy Dice]

For once, I'm glad to not be able to trump other people's stories. I've had more than a few relationships, but they've mostly been fairly short. I've only been dumped once, I tend to end things early if I know it's just not going to go anywhere, rather than lead someone on. Hell, the worst relationship I ever had really wasn't much of a relationship to begin with... In my last year of uni, I dated a girl for two months....sort of. A) she wanted to keep me a secret, because she's east indian and i'm sure not. She was worried about what her mom would think. B) I barely talked to her the second month, except for a two hour conversation, one hour of which she devoted to belts, she claimed because of final exams. After not seeing her and barely hearing from her for a month, she logged onto msn while I was on one day and started to chat. She eventually asked me if I was still interested, and I said no. That's it. That's my single worst relationship to date.

[haiironezumi]

The worst one I've had was when the girl essentially made me be the one to call the relationship off. We were going out through year 12, about 3 weeks before HSC (can't remember exactly when) she said she thought we should take a break until the end of exams. I inquired as to the conditions of the break, since she had a problem with me looking at porn and such, and she said there were no conditions, act as if we were broken up. I asked what about sleeping with other people, and if she was planning on doing that, and she said it was none of my business. After that I didn't talk to her for a while and we sort of just ended it.

[Cordis]

I dated a girl from another culture for three years at University and her parents never really liked me. About 1.5 years into the relationship the parents told her to dump me but we stubbornly continued our relationship in secret.

Eventually her father caught us at university and threatened to kill me (literally) and she decided to pick my safety and her family over me. At the time it didn't seem right and really tore me up.

However in retrospect a secret relationship is not a relationship it ends up being a secret that burdens and destroys both involved. Too this day it still bugs me as we catch the same train each, she catches the 2nd carriage and I catch the last. We are both aware of each other but avoid each other cause deep down we still care for each other.

[Al]

I dated a girl from another culture for three years at University and her parents never really liked me. About 1.5 years into the relationship the parents told her to dump me but we stubbornly continued our relationship in secret.

Eventually her father caught us at university and threatened to kill me (literally) and she decided to pick my safety and her family over me. At the time it didn't seem right and really tore me up.

However in retrospect a secret relationship is not a relationship it ends up being a secret that burdens and destroys both involved. Too this day it still bugs me as we catch the same train each, she catches the 2nd carriage and I catch the last. We are both aware of each other but avoid each other cause deep down we still care for each other.
That massively sucks.

The girl I loved more than anything broke up with me because the 'day to day' wasn't working. The worst part was she was totally right. It's over a year since we broke up (and several relationships), but it still hurts when I think about it.

You can't choose who you love, and logic plays no part...

[Afta Image]

I dated a girl from another culture for three years at University and her parents never really liked me. About 1.5 years into the relationship the parents told her to dump me but we stubbornly continued our relationship in secret.

Eventually her father caught us at university and threatened to kill me (literally) and she decided to pick my safety and her family over me. At the time it didn't seem right and really tore me up.

However in retrospect a secret relationship is not a relationship it ends up being a secret that burdens and destroys both involved. Too this day it still bugs me as we catch the same train each, she catches the 2nd carriage and I catch the last. We are both aware of each other but avoid each other cause deep down we still care for each other.

Shoot her parents.... Problem resolved....

Seriously though, you are right and by the sound of it, I think there has been no resolution to your feelings.

I can relate, thats the problem with such relationships especially when it was circumstances that interferred more than feelings and the ability to function.

[Merudo]

We are both aware of each other but avoid each other cause deep down we still care for each other.

Jesus fucking christ, if you two are both still single, fucking hell

you better not be, for at least then you have a reason for why you're not with her.

I know you said the parents would kill you, but mang you can talk to everyone to a certain degree, maybe you can work out your issues together.
how old are you?


I wasn't aware parents still dictate the entire course of your lives and decide who you can love and who you cant love???




Maybe I don't understand, but if you two still care about each other... then its a damn shame :/

[Girl.]

Jesus fucking christ, if you two are both still single, fucking hell

you better not be, for at least then you have a reason for why you're not with her.

I know you said the parents would kill you, but mang you can talk to everyone to a certain degree, maybe you can work out your issues together.
how old are you?


I wasn't aware parents still dictate the entire course of your lives and decide who you can love and who you cant love???




Maybe I don't understand, but if you two still care about each other... then its a damn shame :/

Having said that, it's also fucking hard to be in a situation like the girl's, coming from a culture where your parents traditionally have a say as to who your partner is and what type of person they are, especially when you and your family are living in a society like Australia that encourages people to choose their own partners.

Thankfully, my parents have always been really cool about who I date, but my uncle wanted my cousins to have arranged marriages, or at least wanted to have some input into who my cousins married. They refused, and even though they've been married for almost eight and ten years now respectively, their relationship with my uncle is very strained. He refuses to even recognise their marriages. And yes, it's fucked, but when you're in a family like that the only choices you may have may be to be with the person you love at the expense of being estranged from your family, or attempt to find somebody else of whom your family approves.

My 2c.

[thingy]

but my uncle wanted my cousins to have arranged marriages, or at least wanted to have some input into who my cousins married. They refused, and even though they've been married for almost eight and ten years
Wait, your cousins married? They're tasmanian?

[Girl.]

Wait, your cousins married? They're tasmanian?

Har har. No.

*kicks thingy*

[tikdoph]

I am not going to talk about my divorce as it was very ugly and not something I want to re-live.

I will give one piece of advise though...Do not start a divorce unless you really, really, hate the other person. You see the true nature of people under those circumstances.
Maybe you should have spent more time getting to know their true nature before you married them.

[Glompbot]

I think the worst relationship was the one when I stayed around long past when I should have left... for what I thought was love.

Or when I told him it was ok, and I'd deal with it... but a few months later I told him I just couldn't deal with it - i wasn't coping. And he called me a liar because I didn't at first *realise* that I couldn't deal with it. And he called me being upset 'emotional blackmail'

The worst experience? being kicked out of his bed and spending the night on the couch because he thought I'd hit him after he told me he'd slept with someone else.... I hit the mattres in frustration... I mean, yeah... geat... thanks for telling me... BUT DON'T FUCKING TELL ME WHEN YOU'RE CUDDLING UP TO ME LOOKING FOR SEX.

When in desperation I asked him to use a condom with the people he was sleeping with and he responded with "what would (other female) think?"

[~vjay~]

If I started my last & worst relationship story here it would be a novel & I am not exaggerating, & it would top probably anything you have ever heard before :(

[Manshoon]

I somehow doubt that vikki.....Ive heard some fucking horror stories in my time....and Ive been involved in a few (not just me but people around me).

Bring it awn!

[~vjay~]

Okay, my novel, beware, long story, please stop reading now if you haven't got time to read.

When I was 18 I met this guy, me, low self esteem, blah blah blah, him, controlling, other than he liked to tell me what to do & intimidate me, rape me on occasion, that is the best bit about it all.

I had 2 children with this fuckwit.
6 & 1/2 years later I finally get the courage to leave.
He started to go really strange, more than usual, lost the plot, etc.
I still let him take the kids every weekend, with misgivings.(kids are aged 1 & 4 & 1/2 at this time)
He comes to my house, sees me putting a note someone left on the door inthe bin, takes the kids, comes back 1 hour later & then rants & raves & goes through the rubbish looking for the note, I threw him out of my house I was renting at the time,
Not long after this I meet someone knew, that weekend my ex comes over to pick the kids up, new man lets ex in the house thinking he will be civil, ex is asking nice questions such as "have you fucked her yet, & other stupid questions, on the way out he goes through new mans car looking for smokes without even asking.
Monday night, kids are home in bed, 8.30pm, in the lounge watching TV,
the front windows smashed in, ex jumps in window, looks at new man, then at me & comes for me & I am on the phone, puts hands around neck & strangles me, more than once, new man has trouble trying to get him off, & somehow in all this gets a huge chunk off glass & chases new man out of the house & does it again.
He ends up leaving.

Avo is on him, still I let him take the kids like a fuckwit coz i feel bad if i stop him taking kids, police supervise pick up & drop off if no-one else can do it.

2 & 1/2 months later, Ex arsons the house we used to share because he is paranoid & thinks i am going to get half of everything even though I had never even seen a solicitor, 3 cats & tanks of tropical fish are in the house because I was in temporay housing & couldn't take any pets, saved 2 of the cats that were outside, found my baby kitten dead inside & 2 tanks of dead fish.

2 weeks later, ex finds my new house I have moved to & kicks in window & brings a knife.
He isn't after me this time but same new man who is now my partner & chases him all over the house while I am on the phone, my ex says my new man is a pedophile, he also said he was jesus(me ex,not my man)

He goes into the kids rooms & drags my baby daughter out of bed & locks himself into my sons room, police get my daughter off him & then my son too.
Ex is locked up finally.
My 4yo son is acting really strange, nasty, pissing all over his bedroom & being violent.
2 months after this my son who is now 5 tells me his dad was molesting him on access visits. Took my son to sexual assault counselling who confirmed his dad did do it.

2 & 1/2 years later, same ex gets out of jail, well he spent half of the time at the Thomas Embling facility which if you have ever heard of it is a nuthouse for prisoners, apparently classed as schizophrenic which he wasn't before I left him(if true possibly caused by drug use after we split up)

Now going to court, i have sole custody of kids, he wants access, denies he is a pedophile & this has been going on for nearly 2 years.
Very remote chance he will get any access due to him being now a convicted burglar(thats what they charge you for if you break & enter while residents are home), aggravated assault, arson, & unproven molestation .

He won't give up even though he didn't give a flying shit about the kids while i was with him, he thinks everything is his property.
next week my solicitor is going to a procedural hearing due to us requesting a pych report on him last year, so far he won't comply.
26th April is another court date.
If he had brains he would give up, it is going to trial if he doesn't, let him hear & everyone else his child molestation info in court.

Told you this was a fucked up novel.

Sorry for the rant. :(

[sperm]

vicki, in your case I wouldnt say it qualified as a relationship at all - the guy is purely and simply off his rocker ! :eek:

[Manshoon]

I agree....tho your story is long and obviously has a lot of hardship I do feel for you as I know people who have been in similar situations.

*hugs for vikki*....your ex seems like a complete nutter tbh.....if ya need someone to talk to....Im sure a lot of us can lend a friendly ear :)

[Glompbot]

hugs...

thank you o elusive one :D

[~vjay~]

Thanks.

I never knew leaving someone could be so hard .
At least I made it out alive :banana:

[dilligaf]

Okay, my novel, beware, long story, please stop reading now if you haven't got time to read.

When I was 18 I met this guy, me, low self esteem, blah blah blah, him, controlling, other than he liked to tell me what to do & intimidate me, rape me on occasion, that is the best bit about it all

......

He won't give up even though he didn't give a flying shit about the kids while i was with him, he thinks everything is his property.
next week my solicitor is going to a procedural hearing due to us requesting a pych report on him last year, so far he won't comply.
26th April is another court date.
If he had brains he would give up, it is going to trial if he doesn't, let him hear & everyone else his child molestation info in court.

Told you this was a fucked up novel.

Sorry for the rant. :(

Damn, thats hard. At least you're here today. Sounds like a real nutbag. It good you got out of there.

[LauraleeBug]

I will give one piece of advise though...Do not start a divorce unless you really, really, hate the other person. You see the true nature of people under those circumstances.

I'm truly sorry to hear, dood, I don't want you to relive pain; it's not good for the soul... However, unfortunately; I kinda disagree.

Maybe I'm the exception but I'm friends with ALL my ex's. I was engaged 4 times (currently on #4) married once (was hoping it would only be once, but...); but I divorced my husband because I loved him!

We had a good long run (almost 10 yrs; married 7) and we weren't not only not making each other happy - we were hurting each other by the locked in orbit when we both needed something else now. Ppl grow apart sometimes...

I don't want children (neither does husband-to-be #2); but after a bit, although husband #1 promised me he did NOT marry me to start a family or any other reason except for me. We were once bests friends. But I knew he really did want a family; I tried for 3 mos, got scared and knew I could never. I wanted him to have another chance while he (we both) were still young enough.

He emailed me last week, he just had his first son at age 40. I sent his kid a $50 US savings bond. I wish him well....

To me, it makes more sense to find their true nature BEFORE the wedding not DURING the divorce... It's psychologically documented that approx 2 yrs is the point where you either figure out you're compatible or not - if you make it past year 2; all will be well for awhile.... After 7 years of marriage, there's supposed to be something called the "7 year itch". So, either I had an itch or a midlife crisis but I'm glad we were brave enough to do it; it would have been soooo easy just to stay... and waste away....

I only have 1 ex I don't talk to - my first finance; because he couldn't handle it. His loss.

My 2nd was a multi-millionaire; we were together for years; engaged the whole time - when I let him go too... he was older than me, so, I let go earlier. He's not exactly happy but he's stable and a workaholic and I realised I don't give a rats ass about money too much.

My first ex (not engaged - back in Uni) is now a bigwig at Lucent and his wife & him were the ones who gave me thousands to move to Australia 4 years ago - totally open loan. I started paying it back this month...

Maybe I'm not normal, but I've had a few good men; and they all treated me well in their own way. Often supporting me after the breakup or vice versa. I feel at peace and that I have an extended family this way...

In 20 yrs I had 4 major relationships, 2 dry spells (2 yrs, no sex, my choice), a few kewl fuckbuddies; and I can't understand why if I loved them once; that (although in NO WAY "in love" with them or even physically tempted because they were all so long. None was under 2 yrs...) but what I loved about them as a person, for their mind, their heart never changes. The stuff they're made out of didn't change; just us. It was just time for me to move up, is all. I can still count all my lovers w/o using other ppls digits; I only got dumped 2x. Once I was very very young; the other I shoulda known better; but even they were civilised. Of course they're still "my friends".

I know it sounds like a stupid phrase but in my case it's not - because I only date (I don't even date, not really - I find 'em by radar) ppl I have been friends with first. I'm extremely picky even when I'm 2 yrs down the track extremely horny; even more so with a "fuckbuddy" (or another chick) ...

But I ended up with what I wanted in the end. I have never been happier in my entire life; and don't think I could be. Even though my ex's all were good in their own way; each successive one was a step closer to being "almost perfect" because there's no such thing as perfect - only to the level where you start to realise, that yeah - you could be happy living like this....

... perhaps even forever this time...... :)

May every good person here have their chance at least once in life; and if you didn't get it yet - keep looking. It'll be worth the wait, I swear....

Blessed Be,
Lauralee

[LauraleeBug]

Update:

Josh (aka "GetWithTheProgram") who used to hang around here a bit has a pix page & guestbook of his little treasure.

It was a bit weird because I *did* start to cry a bit; and Android asked me what that was all about....

And just like during our wedding (Josh & mine's, long ago & far away) I realised how those "Miss America" chicks can cry when they're happy....

... I'm very happy for Josh & his wife Gloria. It's sorta like my surrogate kid. He will be surrounded by good ppl; and that's all I like to see for someone I love.

Sorry, just feeling a bit sentimental and noticed that not many ppl know the site; he used to be quite friendly with some of you (esp GF) during the 2001-3 period on ZG; so it'd be nice to welcome his son into the world, no?

G'wan and say hello.... "Everybody Loves Joshua" ....... (no sarcasm intended!) and now he has a son! He'd be happy to hear from any of you, I'm sure..., it's nice to see an *intelligent* person breeding for a change.... (I swear the fat bitch down the block had #4 last winter for the $5K - 'cause all of the sudden they got a new car, no blocks under it, either! :p )

I'm glad that Joshua is happy... I truly am, and he knows it. Divorce is just a word for not living in the same house in your underwear together anymore...... divorced is you're not #1 anymore, you're not the partner, you're not the backup singer, you're just a friend who loves. There's nothing wrong with that. That's how adults do business.... If not, get yourself on "Joe Millionaire" and see how long that lasts. I've had *dates* that lasted 2 mos at a pop.... LOL!

Anyway, MAZEL TOV to Jonathan Nemoy, New Jersey's newest Aquarian childe.... :banana:


http://www.jonathan-nemoy.4t.com/

Thanx for listening! :cool:

[SamBo]

I guess my past experiences are pretty weak compared to some of the ones you guys have posted about... but still...
An ex of mine was VERY demanding and controlling. For some reason I did what she asked. An example of this is if she wanted something that was just out of her reach, instead of getting up and getting it she'd demand that i got it for her. For some reason I did it all the time... on the few times i hesitated or told her to do it, a HUGE argument would break out and she'd then threaten to not sleep with me ever again.
This girl also had a fetish for squeezing pimples and ingrown hairs. She practised this on me, as she reckoned i had heaps on my back (so convenient as i couldn't verify this). If i protested, again she'd say she'd not sleep with me or go on about the dangers of ingrown hairs... pretty fucked up.
She was on the pill, and secretly went off it without telling me. I would still wear condoms though and got sus when she was practically begging me not to wear them. I confirmed my suspiscions when i found her pills and found she hadn't been taking them for some time...
One time I was working a casual job. It was paying decent money and was cash in hand. I had debts, but she didn't care about that. She knew i had money and since her b'day was coming up she asked for diamond earrings. So, Stupid me bought her some. you know what she said when she opened them? "These are too small!" and handed them back to me and then shut herself in her room. she wouldn't come out again until I agreed to swap them for bigger ones (these small ones cost over $300). Don't ask me why i did that. I feel so stupid, but what can I say? I was whipped.
Anyway, we grew further and further apart and it was obvious things were going to end. I should have ended it way sooner, but I didn't. She was conveniently away at uni (not in sydney) and felt it was ok to ignore me and have a good time (she actually said something like that to me). I got out of there then.
She then came back at the end of the uni semester and i told her it was over. She practically begged me to take her back and told me things would be ok. Stupid me believed her. The next day we met up and she said "yeah, lets just be friends". I felt physically ill then. She wanted to then go to the movies or something. I said no, i'm going home, i feel sick. She then got pissed at me and that was the last time i actually spoke to her in person.
Nice huh?
I'm just glad that now I'm in a nice and fair relationship. I feel happy and are experiencing equality in a relationship for the first time ever. :)

[LauraleeBug]

OMG!
That is fucken bad! What a bitch!

Your problem (says the pyscho-iatrist) is that you're too damn nice! Android can totally relate to this.

I hate this crap because I *LOVE* nice guys. However, due to societies' influence - around here guys get the msg very early in life that "tough guys win" & "nice guys come in last" so it makes them jaded.

I don't think I've ever met a guy that wasn't *still* traumatised by his "firstlove" (not saying it was yours, that's not the point) to some castrating bitch.

I love 'em nice. All mines were geeks... Guys much tougher & cuter used to think they could steal me from my ex (one was short, fat, had coke-bottle glasses) but a *really* hi-q and funny as hell. He was so much older than me, ppl thought he was me Dad. (In above story - this is the multi-m$ person)....

He bought me more gold, diamonds, sapphires, opals, etc; you name it than god but that wasn't what I wanted. What I wanted was his time & attention. Someone to knock socks with and eat in bed late at night making crumbs & other nice stuff.

But why do you think he was rich? He was a workaholic!

I then realised I didn't want money or posessions (but that's easy to say when they're offered to you) but don't think I wasn't in serious deep shit & broke & fuckt after our breakup. I was just happy I wasnt born rich, because it maybe is harder for ppl used to crashlanding on money - so in a weird way I felt lucky. Since I was born in the NYC area projects, ghetto - whateveryouwannacall it - I'm used to it. Not that I like it - but it gives me incentive and a new strength to try to do things for myself.

I guess the only hint here is if someone wants something from you other than to be with you; too hard, too fast - it's not YOU they are in love with. It's something else, but in all fairness, they don't know that....

That's what getting old is for!
Anyway, I know you're happy now :D and you certainly deserve it - actually; anyone that can give it deserves it back

Bug's 2 worthless cents again...... :)

[m0nk3ymagic]

My Exgirlfriend cheated on me with a circus performer (a clown) and ran away with him. She now travels the country with him and his circus (Lyndsay Bros.).

True story no lie.

[Sagacious]

My Exgirlfriend cheated on me with a circus performer (a clown) and ran away with him. She now travels the country with him and his circus (Lyndsay Bros.).

True story no lie.

Man does it suck to be you. Or rather didn't it suck to be you assuming you are over the cheating clownfucking circus freak biatch.

That is really woeful...my bitch ran away with the circus and left me for a guy who wears more makeup than she does.

I wonder was it the big shoes or the rotating bow tie that turned her head?


Put it behind you and laugh when you read about her bizarre workplace accident here on Zgeek.

[m0nk3ymagic]

I guess she was fooled by the big feet thing...

[AsterisK]

Well i broke up with my ex about 3-4 weeks ago... She gave the reason that we never see each other... I dunno why but I had this idea in the back of my head that she liked some other guy... Anyways tonight i found out she has a new bf... She told me the other day she is interested in sum1 else but its a bit of a shock really... Im not sure how I should treat her now, i want to be a cunt but i am not that mean, as in previous threads u will notice i am a "nice guy" :P Still it pisses me off... I wanna know if she was cheating on me, or if she even liked me in the first place... She is older then me, but still a virgin ahahaha.... Anyways, comments, suggestions etc, under this post.

[Sagacious]

Well i broke up with my ex about 3-4 weeks ago... She gave the reason that we never see each other... I dunno why but I had this idea in the back of my head that she liked some other guy... Anyways tonight i found out she has a new bf... She told me the other day she is interested in sum1 else but its a bit of a shock really... Im not sure how I should treat her now, i want to be a cunt but i am not that mean, as in previous threads u will notice i am a "nice guy" :P Still it pisses me off... I wanna know if she was cheating on me, or if she even liked me in the first place... She is older then me, but still a virgin ahahaha.... Anyways, comments, suggestions etc, under this post.
get with her flatmate/sister/best friend/boss/boyfriend's mother/boyfriend's sister.*

*delete all who do not qualify on the basis that they do not exist or are male

[m0nk3ymagic]

It sounds like exaclty the same situation I was in with clown girl.

My advice is dont be an arse to her you will just come out as a dick.

But

Dont be nice to her either just be switzerland.

[dozer]

ive been with plenty of 'clown girls' but i doubt any advice i can offer will be useful

[Sagacious]

ive been with plenty of 'clown girls' but i doubt any advice i can offer will be useful
Might be entertaining though.

Dozer offer us the pain of your experience as our entertainment.

[dozer]

well, i picked up a young lady at a bar who was very inebriated but very keen to make my aquaintance. as i was living with my folks at the time i decided it not a good idea to escort her to my family home. i decided upon a hotel room as she was, what is described in the indusry as 'hot stuff'. having check most of the local dodgy places in the area we found that most werebooked due to some conference, all that was left was a high class establishment going by the name of hilton. i let them swipe my credit card an nonchalant as you can at 4am after 14 jamesons holding up a random girl and proceed to the suite we were assigned for the mornings festivities. i head to the bathroom while she prepared the love nest only to return to find her vomiting all over the floor. she then decides shes fine, helps herself to the mini bar (im thinking of my credit card now) and we get down to bussiness. its only after a short break i realise its that time of the lunar cycle and my card is about to spring for nto only a new set of sheets but a protector and a matress, the moral of the story, never use your own credit card when dealing with the inebriated.

[sub-kamikaze]

My ex-girlfriend did the whole pregnancy scare too, just luckily not with me. She was going out with some guy who was threatening to leave her (as in alot of cases here), and took it a step further by getting a blue pen and actually colouring a home pregnancy kit. Now that's low. She was laughing about it, so proud of her ingenuity. What a moo-cow. When I went out with her for a year, she broke up with me on my 18th birthday. Best present I ever got.

[AsterisK]

1. pregnancy scare with my first
2. my current ex's best friends go to same nightclub as me pretty regularly... last night they were pretty much being total bitches to me as per usual... fucking ex's best friends, typical....
3. ex before that, asked me to marry her... then only a month or two later wants a "break" and actually says she wants me to go out and fuck other chicks whilst on that break... of course i dont... :P that was the end of that one...

[Scrat-atat]

had the pregnancy scare as well, while on a trip with her and our friends to montreal..kind of put a damper on the trip.

later on she and my ex friend hooked up, after he promised me they wouldn't (we've broken up by this point but there's that rule of friends don't date their friends ex's without permission)

[Elf_Girl]

very late responce, just read through this thread..
My ex broke up with my over email the day i had a math exam at uni, after i had been going out with her for over 2.5 years, she said in the email the reason was that she needed time alone etc. Then 2 days later she had a bf so obviously she was cheating on me. She was just lucky that i check my email after the maths exam not before otherwise i would of been even more screwed over.
Just want to clear this up, I didnt cheat on you. And I admit I was a bitch for going out with him 2 days after. And that wasn't the only reason, you know that :p (but thats cleared up now, twas a long loonng time ago!)

Mine would be having problems with being ignored, not just "oh noes! 1 day!" but try a month.. Not much communication at all...Still having those problems unfortunatly :(

[AsterisK]

communication problems suck... wat sucks more is when u try ur hardest to see ur gf all the time, and she is always too busy for u... or she says she isnt going out so u stay at home, and she ends up going out anyways...

oh and being in a relationship and getting the hots for sum1 else also sucks nuts big time...

[Al]

Ha, i had some bad shit happen after an ex broke up with me. She kinda went off the rocker for a bit and caused me a lot of emotional pain at the time. I fuckin almost broke down... Was workin in Syd (i live in adelaide), so had no one bar myself there. Talkin to people over the phone doesn't really help the same way.

Still we're back to being friends now (and were after about 6months of that shit), she never did apologise for it tho. I think she thinks i deserved it. She's a little weird like that, but i love her anyway.

After meeting the love of my life after that and having my heart broken, i've never been able to maintain interest in a relationship again...

I've been single for a few months now and have to say, it's the best thing that's happened to me. I miss all that great stuff you get in a relationship, but i DON'T miss all the fucking SHIT. I deal with my own problems and to be honest, it's a relief. When i'm ready to try again i will, but this time is gold.

This coming from someone who doesn't cope well outside of a relationship.

[xdoctor]

My worst relationship experience? I broke up with a girl six years ago. She calmly got up, walked into the kitchen of her house, picked up a knife, and came back to the living room. She then proced to fucking near cut my arm off and then slit her wrists. She bled out in a matter of seconds and I got to call 911. Nothing quite like watching someone die at the age of 17 over some stupid ass shit.

[Tigress]

Heh, one of my ex's claimed to be preggers.

My first boyfriend got his ex pregnant while he was seeing me.

10 years later he's getting married to the chick and he rings me saying I'm the one he wants. Some people never learn...

[fuelman]

it took me about two months to successfully break up with my girlfriend. everytime i got close she would break down and beg for another chance. i ended up doing it over the phone because i knew i would give in again in person. except this time she treatened suicide if i didn't come over. i didn't. called her parents afterwards though. fun way to end my first relationship

[FuncowK]

My worst relationship experience? I broke up with a girl six years ago. She calmly got up, walked into the kitchen of her house, picked up a knife, and came back to the living room. She then proced to fucking near cut my arm off and then slit her wrists. She bled out in a matter of seconds and I got to call 911. Nothing quite like watching someone die at the age of 17 over some stupid ass shit.

OMFG.. o_O

[scumble]

Been cheated on? Humiliated? Stayed when you should have gone?

Please tell all.

Here is one of mine:

Girlfriend dissapears in nightclub, comes back three hours later to say that some yuppie guy and her had left, gone to another club, had cocaine and made out for two hours in a bathroom cubicle. Then she went over and sat with said guy and bludged drinks off him. Joy!!

LOAL I AM TEH YUPPIE WHO BANGGED YUOR GIRLFRIEND LOAL

[dwarfthrower]

LOAL I AM TEH YUPPIE WHO BANGGED YUOR GIRLFRIEND LOAL

So... how's that herpes going for you?

[gta_gal]

Just been reading through old stuff and found this

Hmmm

Went out with a chick who appreantly "really liked" me, and then found out that for the past week into a 2 month relationship she was bad mouthing me behind my back. So in the end I broke up with her at a party where she was openly flirting with other guys. I said "Dont ever cal me again". She called me the next day and a nice string of words came out of my mouth.

I have never seen her again.

I did that to a guy...but he deserved it

My first boyfriend

I used him for his car
he used me for my virginity
been going out for 2 months
I bad mouthed him behind his back
he screwed his best friend (Hot chick) behind mine
we broke up
he wrote me email saying he wanted to get back together
I went to party and made out with his friend who I really liked
he caught me got angry and left
I didn't understand why he was angry because we were broken up
then I got home and read email
I called him
he said bad words to me
never saw him again

[sperm]

omg kez and gta_gal are ex-bf-gf !

FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT ! ;)

[Directed]

he used me for my virginity

Shocking!!!!

[Directed]

I used my wife for her virginity. We ended up getting married.

TOP THAT!!!!

[metalhed00]

I had a great relationship with this girl when one day she told me she had hung with her exboyfriend because he came over. His mother was having heart surgery and he needed someone to talk to. I felt for him and understood and believed her when she said nothing happened and nothing will happen. A few days later, I find out she hung out with him again (he was still upset) and sometimes when I would try to call her, it would be busy because she was talking to him.

I started asking questions and she sarted giving me answers that did not make sense. Finally, one night I drove her home and he was sitting there waiting for her. Apparently, she was supposed to go out with him that night. Was weird too because me and her had had a really good talk to work at things. So me and this guy are wondering what she doing and who is she with, when he asked her if I knew? Knew what, you say? Knew if she told me that they had fucked a couple of times in the past couple of weeks!!!!!!!

So I am now furious and left. I called her about 3 hours later and told her when she came to work (yes, we worked together) to bring my shirts and other stuff that she had. She was about 2 hours late for work the next day (very unusual for her) and when she came in, she handed me my stuff and turned around. She looked and was acting very weird, but still being alittle pissed, I let it go and didn't ask any questions. About an hour later, I hear my name being screamed and seeing her lying on the floor!

To make an already long story short, she had apparently taken a bottle of pills to kill herself. Luckily, all they did was dehydrate her and make her really tired. I followed the ambulance to the hospital for her and made sure she was ok and even after all that, she still went back to the other guy for about another month or two.

For some odd reason, I think about her all the time. I guess I am just as loony as she was.

[Lurgen]

my first serious boyfriend screwed anything that wasn't nailed down, ie my sister, my best friend and various other chicks known to me. :mad:

I was totally oblivious & as my parent were fairly strict it was pretty easy for him to take me out on a weekend, return me home at curfew & go back to the party or nightclub we'd been at & take someone else home :spingo:

I found out when one of my 'friends' had a pregnancy scare, I did a lot of swearing & a bit of crying but I'm well & truely over it :D as for the guy I'm pretty sure he ended up with something nasty :p
Ouch. That sounds like more of a problem with friends and family that the guy though. Guys are stupid like that, we think with our dicks. Besides, you bring a stranger into your life (eg. a boyfriend) and they do bad shit to you. The bad shit involves people who aren't strangers, who have been there your entire life... who is the bad guy here?

[Lurgen]

I had an interesting once once... dated this girl, she was hawt but psycho. You know the type. She dumped me, in fact she was the only girl in my entire life to actually do the dumping (I'm usually the one who walks away, I tend to attract the clingy types). The circumstances can wait for another post, it's an interesting but messed up story.

Anyhow, the relevant bit is this: she dumped me by email. Not a short email either. She calls me on the mobile to see if I've checked my mail, which I hadn't. I was busy, was on my way to training, no email access in the car. But the tone of her voice gave me an idea what was up so I stopped by a local shopping centre and used one of those kiosks. So I'm sitting there in the middle of Chadstone shopping mall reading my "Dear John" thinking how fucked up it was when I realised I was going to be late for training. Ran to the car, raced to the dojo, and proceeded to kick the shit out of half the class. It was a tournament training class, the violence was in context and marginally appropriate, but never-the-less I was normally a minimalist (score the point, get the fuck out, wait for the judges). That night I was leaving people on the ground.

Thing was, I didn't even realise I was pissed off about the whole thing until I got home and realised I'd just taken out my anger on the entire class (instructors included). I didn't even like this girl, she was just the current short-term shag.

Next class I apologised to a couple of the people I'd gone overboard on and they told me they'd loved it. That I'd really woken them up, they'd learnt a heap, and it completely turned around my training approach. Happy ending? Nah, got the shit kicked out of me at the next tournament regardless.

[Something Fast]

I've got a bad feeling I'll be able to add to this thread very soon.

[Jabro]

I've got that same feeling, but we shall see...

[AzureDreams]

My first "real" boyfriend was a real winner. He told me that he was in college, that he was a college aid, and he even carried around a bookbag with college books, come to find out from his family that he had mental problems, and only worked as a janitor at the college.

[ShinymetalASS]

I used to live with this dude. He was an angry little man. After I decided to leave his angry little ass, he ripped a pink carebear to SHREDS.

What kind of sick fuck tears up Sunshine Bear?

[Necron]

I used to live with this dude. He was an angry little man. After I decided to leave his angry little ass, he ripped a pink carebear to SHREDS.

What kind of sick fuck tears up Sunshine Bear?

And how is the carebear?... To shreds you say! and the widow?.. To shreds you say!

[King_Crud]

I used to live with this dude. He was an angry little man. After I decided to leave his angry little ass, he ripped a pink carebear to SHREDS.

What kind of sick fuck tears up Sunshine Bear?
did he also rip the head off Mr Honey Bunny?

[Vardsy]

I used to live with this dude. He was an angry little man. After I decided to leave his angry little ass, he ripped a pink carebear to SHREDS.

What kind of sick fuck tears up Sunshine Bear?


That is just unimaginable

Sick Fuck........ :mad:

[Aardvark]

Or shoot Pookey the Bear, just before Murdoch went into a blind rage?

[Necron]

I used my wife for her virginity. We ended up getting married.

TOP THAT!!!!

Hmmm, there is a lot of that going around.... well we arnt married yet, but plans are in the wind.

And by that I mean she plans it, I sit back and say maybe later!

[label]

I've not had a bad break up, but bad post break -up with stalking fuckwit retard.


It's over fuck off & die, I don't care about you/ what you did/ didn't do. I've had you and didn't think much of you so someone else can have a go now.

[StudMuffin]

meh, girls throwing new bfs in my face whilst they are wearing my clothes is quite annoying

/shrugs

[eeefreak]

I got dumped for religion. 2 year relationship boiled down to if I'd join the church or not.

I feel your pain mate. I was married to a chick whose father was a Baptist Pastor.

*Was* being the operative word... Fucking whorebag cheated on me after 13 years together...

DIE SLUT MOLE FUCK WHORE CUNT RAG BITCH SKANK DIEEEEEEE...

Not that i'm bitter about it or anything...

Say hi to the baby jeebers for me...

[mªrty]

man, all these stories make me feel a little better about my relationships....well...almost


anyway, i was going out with this girl for about 3-4 months. about this time it was session (semester) break at uni. i was going back to america to visit cousins/aunt/uncles for the whole month, about 4 weeks.

we emailed heaps (which was cool) but i could tell she was kinda losing interest. about a week into it i get a "where are we going?/how EXACTLY do you feel about me?" email. i think i said something along the lines of "maybe we could try being friends?" she took that as being the end and proceeded to see a guy that lives across the street that she had known since primary school ( i think he did a fuck-and-run)

they break up a few short weeks later (he dumped her), and now we talk and see each other around.

i should note that we didnt have sex. i think i will talk to her at length and see if it was just naivety (she's only 18, 19 next week). i hope so :P

[sperm]

marty: i reckon she sent the "where are we going" letter because she was ALREADY thinking about the guy that lives across the street. Her bad.

But if you can move on, maybe she has now learnt her lesson about the grass is greener (literally) on the other side of the fence.....

[Booberella]

well im a cold heartless bitch at heart
i broke up with my last boyfriend on my front varranda on Valentines Day. i sat there trying not to laugh at the humour of the situation while he cried.

[etherealchild]

When I was a 18 I had the wonderful blessing to date a really clingy jealous asshole. He would check my e-mail and secretly follow me to parties to see if I cheated on him. I was so stressed out and unhappy. When I finally broke up with him, luckily not after too long, he pretended to be interested in my roomate freshman year at college just so he had an excuse to be in my room and keep tabs on me. I found out later through a mutual friend that even after we broke up he would still go through my shit when he came over to bang my roomie.
Psycho.
In spite of all the accusations and crazy behavior, I never once cheated on him.
And to think of all the hot guys I could have banged but didn't.

[Something Fast]

Whoa. That's seriously damn bizarre and disturbing in a big way. Like, thriller movie bizarre and disturbing. When you had a shower in the same vicinity as him, did you hear the music from Psycho or anything? I mean, damnit that's like textbook crazy right there!

[Lina]

This guy I went out with for four years decided to turn himself into a junkie after 2 years. He had serious family issues and was fucked up about it, you know the deal. After several attempted suicides, driving his overdosed and dying friends to hospital on two different occassions, having everything stolen, emotional blackmail, his dealer threatening mine and my families lives, extreme jealousy and possessiveness I cried all night in a bathtub, got up the next day and left the prick. It's just far too hard watching someone you love fall so low and kick you because of it.

I'm told that after I left he lost the plot and told everyone I left him just as he was getting better and it's all my fault he's a junky motherfucker. Oh FUCK OFF. Shortly afterwards he went to jail for robbery. He was real pretty too, I'm sure he would have been popular.

On a positive note, I did take his dog with me. Couldn't leave the poor little bugger, he would have been sold for smack in about two seconds. Still have the wee tacker...love him to pieces :) It took me about four years to get over the scars of that particular relationship (it's always harder when you love the bastards).

[Aardvark]

Hehe, I broke up with a girl on valentines day. She didn't mind, until she found out I was going out with one of her workmates a week later.

Six months later, that girl dumped me. Ahh well, such is life

[OneSwo]

Er. Chick fucked my brains out par usual as we'd done every night for 'up til' the 2 years that we lived together. Then one night she tells me shes not going to be there in the morning she has to go do some things to take care of her life and kind'of 'find herself'. So I trust her and say ok, you know how to get ahold of me when your ready, and think nothing of it. I told her i'd call in a week to see how she was doing and we'd talk more about whatever the hell was in her head. I had no idea at the time, but in my experience I knew it was best to not ask and fight about it then, and just be on her side about whatever.

Well long story short over the course of the next 3 weeks she ended up treating me like I was some kind of stalker dude and quite literally told everyone where she just transferred to (her new school UCSD) just that.

To this day I am still baffled as to what happened and why she changed. It would be one thing if I knew i'd cheated on her or something else bad, but when you do nothing but love and trust a person only to be betrayed so coldly? I can understand betrayal. I can deal with it, its not the first probably wont be the last, but this particular girl didnt even give a reason. She wouldnt and still wont even talk to me long enough for me to know.

I know in my heart, that in her heart, she feels guilt and just isnt big enough to admit it. She didnt get with anyone else for probably 8 months and even after she did from what I've heard through the grapevine, its a sympathy b/f. As in, she dated him in sympathy of how pathetic he is. Anyways.

I havent talked to or tried to contact this gal in probably a year. I know its best for me to never think about it again and just move forward with my life. I hope she comes around one day, at least to tell me she's sorry, even though I've already forgiven her for what shes done. I can handle having friends, losing friends, having enemies, and whatever else follows. But one thing I cant handle very well is losing a friend, who treats me like an enemy, yet feeling like 'I' am still 'Their' friend. Like i'd stick up for them, yet I know they wouldnt for me. And why would I? I dont know, you just do that when you care about a person. Doesnt matter really what they do to you.

Anyhow, its a year later + a month or so. This was just one of those things. Even though I try so hard to move forward. I dont know if any of the rest of you have cared for a person this way. I still wake up in the middle of the night wondering where she is some nights. I still have dreams of the last times we were together. Its just a big fucked up state of confusion. I dont feel like I could be with her again. But at the same time I really have no desire to be with anyone else. I piss girls off left and right in my daily life now. They literally come out and ask me to take them on dates and what not and I turn them down every time. Its not that im waiting on anything, I just really dont want to get involved anymore. I stepped into fire that I'll never forget. Maybe Ill play the game again one day. But definately not right now.

I used to seek advice, but all I've ever gotten was sympathy. At least in the past 13 months I've found that if you focus enough on bigger life-goals, things like this will cease to be important. Maybe this last relationship twisted my mind a little, but im ok with that. If your gunna hook up with a chick or a dude, let it be after you've done everything else.

Anyways. Im done talking about this. Time to go shoot some fuckers in the head BOOM headshot :) Cs time baby.

[mªrty]

hell yeah. that's what cs is good for; forgetting about that one that got away.

[Seeker]

Having all my shit dumped in the ocean by the bitch that cheated on me....some people are just fucking crazy, I just wish they had to wear a sign so you know before hand.

[johny_roberts]

I've had several psycho chicks the worst one was a gal named Rachel. One episode she actualy shot a gun at me as I drove away. Quite the catch.

Well one evening we got into an argument and I told her I faked all my orgasms *ya like guys can kind of obvious when you give her a pearl necklace* Well she starts wailing on me and I pick her up and huck her out of my house locking the door.

20 minutes later cops show up and arrest me for assault. thank god my mates were at the house and backed my story up. So no jail time..

Only thing good about dating a psycho chick is the sex is great. You never know what personality you are going to fuck next...:D

[Seeker]

You could even say you have had group sex!

[rbranson]

Only thing good about dating a psycho chick is the sex is great. You never know what personality you are going to fuck next...:D

Unless you are able to cum 3 or 4 hours later, or have multiple orgasms, a psycho chick becomes a real drag -- especially after you move in with her, and you soon realize sex is all she can do. You better learn to like those canned sauces and chemical desserts -- or better still, enjoy the sex but learn to be a chef, chauffeur, butler and maintenance man all at once.

If you pull it off, there is a good chance you'll be too tired to do her anyways and she'll soon be fucking other guys. Man, there is always a friggin' downside a guy doesn't see cause at a critical point in time, we're just all thinking with the heads of our goddamned dicks. :banghead:

[Seeker]

Cum baby cum baby baby cum cum. Cum baby cum baby baby cum cum. I've got a psycho chick and I've got to give her some!

[rbranson]

i think i said something along the lines of "maybe we could try being friends?" she took that as being the end and proceeded to see a guy that lives across the street that she had known since primary school ( i think he did a fuck-and-run)


Is that what they call one-night stands now?

Good line.

[etherealchild]

One episode she actualy shot a gun at me as I drove away.

:gun:


You win.

[rascuache]

My ex-fiance was also quite the catch.

I met him when i was 14 and started going out with him 6 months later, the first year was okay, i barely saw him once a month. Even though he professed to love me after three and i laughed at him. I lost my virginity to him that year, but i dont remember much because i got the drunkest i've evern been straight after it.

The next year we started fighting, he'd turned 18 and got to go out, i was going on 16. Aside from that i was beginning to realise my paramour was a bogan moron and unless we were fucking or talking about music we were fighting because he couldnt understand some basic principles of life because he was too busy smoking dope.

The next year my parents got sick of him, and i was sneaking out. Being 16 i was getting sick of not having any freedom while my friends got to do as they pleased. So i became adept at lying. This was also the year i first realised that guys i went to school with were finding me attractive. So i cheated on him once. And then another time while on a school trip in canberra. I dont know why but i didnt feel the slightest bit guilty and i didnt tell him either, i figured that since his fat bitch ex was alwasy round him he'd be fucking her anyway and he'd told me he'd been used to having sex before me and had at least 5 different girls so going without sex till i was ready was a pain. Evidently at the time, he was more important than my parents and i ran away from home to live with the barstard and his filthy family for three months. I also lived with a pair of speed junkies for some of that time. Those guys introduced him and then me to speed.

After patching it up with my parents i moved home cause i missed them and the clean house with no used tampons in the sink and meals with vegetables. I got invited to a computer science summer camp at Usyd that year and cheated on him again with some sexy geeks i met at the camp (one was so fucking hot and a virgin and wanted me to take his innocence but damn i didnt!). After that i decided the relationship sucked and i wanted out so i could be with some of those hawt geeks. But i soon forgot when he proposed on my 18th birthday. That night he was hospitalised for fighting a security guard. After that he introduced me to his speed dealers and they were such a nice family and giving too, gave me freebies of speed. I got hooked. By the time i was nearing the HSC exams i was totally hooked. And at uni it got worse. But by this time we were bored with each other and I was cheating again and he was trying to get me to invite my friends to group sex. Which i duly did, but i was having various flings at uni aswell. I was also selling speed and avoiding the police.

End of that year my sister was diagnosed with anorexia and i snapped out of my addiction due to it and having my heart broken by one of my flings that i ended up falling in love with. I was still hiding it from him and our fights were becoming nasty. I tried to break it off with him in person once a month but i was a sucker for his tears i gave in and stayed with him. Beginning of second year i met a group of friends that were big clubbers, i tried to take him out with them but he had a jealousy attack and said they were trying to fuck me. He insisted on ringing 10 times a day on a mobile he bought me, i thought fuck you, you're not controlling me so the nights my friends went out i rang him at 8 saying i'd just got home and was buggered and going to bed so dont bother ringing me. Then i'd go out with my friends til dawn.

One day i tried breaking it off with him over the phone and he took it. I Couldnt believe i was rid of him (i had another fling going on in the background too) The next day he turned up at uni, he followed me around the campus. My friends hid me at their house while he tried to enter all my lectures and demand to see me. Eventually the university security turfed him out. The next day he was at my parents house, they felt sorry for him because he was so distraught he looked pathetic, he walked around the block til i went home to change for work, then he was at the door within 2 minutes begging me to take him back. then he followed me to work, harrassed me until my pissed off boss locked him out. He then walked around the suburb til i finished. I hid at a friends place and put my car in their garage for 3 weeks until he stopped following me everywhere. Then he got a solicitor to write me a letter demanding 1000 dollars, which i stupidly gave him. 2 months later he asked if we could be friends, his idea of friends was talking about who he'd fucked and then telling everyone he knew that i'd become alcoholic from loneliness.

Its now five years later, and every time he sees me anywhere he behaves as rudely as possible and hurls abuse if he sees me.

Hence the reason i hate bogans

[MC SoD]

Nobody likes, nobody likes, nobody likes a bogan.

[mysterious-dr-x]

personally i dont have anything interesting. considering my only relationship was 6months, 1st 3 none exclusive, 1st 4 no-one else knew this is not suprising.

most interesting im around if my housemate lou & her current whatever.

they 1st started seeing each other 2 years ago, at the begining all was fine etc etc. after 5months is he broke up with her, went a fucked a couple of other girls, then decided that actually he did want her, she agreed. since then they have broken up 6 or so more times, once was her going off him, & he was still the reason they got back together. all the others were the same as the 1st.

each time the break up its for longer & longer, & each time the are together is shorter. currently they are 'seeing each other' but are exclusive, fuck knows, but she is pissed off with him, due to him deciding that he is going to role play a shit load they now only have 1 night aweek that they both have free, so she says she doesnt see the point. fucking finally.

i really dont get what she sees in him. me & her are very similar & i find him incredibly dull &/or annoying. you cant have a conversation with him unless it is about teh current thing on the tv, whether it be a programme or a game. plus he just kills any previous conversation when he turns up.

i really need him to catch me in an angry mood, when he treats her like shit. but apparently he is scared of me :)

[Iceman]

Well, I have to say, of the people I know, I've had the most fucked up relationships.

But after reading some of your stories, I don't feel quite so bad.. I mean, nobody's shot at me over a relationship .. threatened to sure.. but I haven’t had to dodge much more than puffed up fuckwits.

I'm not sure I can really recount too many of them without in depth history..

Most annoying was the bitch who I picked up, saw for a few months, decided to move to my city. Right at this point we had a couple of issues, mainly to do with the fact that she was going to move in with my, most trustworthy, best friend. She did just that and within about 3 weeks they were fucking around behind my back and lying to me about it.

She never even had the decency to break up with me first. But hey, it would have only tipped me off had I not known all along.

That little tale, sadly, has repeated itself a couple of times with slightly different details. But, that’s just par for my life.

The tragic ones are the relationships that were with people that had serious potential.

Of the two people I’ve met in my entire life I perhaps could have married, I screwed up one because prior experience led me wrong. Another fell into depression and pushed me away before we had a chance. I probably had little to do with it, but the day after we last spoke (argued), she swallowed a bottle of pills and slit her wrists. She’s alive, somewhere, but she isn’t the person I once knew.

Maybe it's fate telling me; "not that one, wait a bit". Personally, I think I’m just a lightning rod for the fucked up and deranged.

[ribblefizz]

I've been married twice; both marriages were physically and emotionally abusive. First husband wouldn't have sex with me after we married... I had to pretty much beg for it, dress up in lingerie, do makeup and hair and pose... nine times out of ten, he'd look me up and down like he was inspecting me for termites and go "No... maybe another time." I was 18 when I got married and ZERO self-esteem, so when (at 137 lbs... and keep in mind I'm 6' tall) he was telling me how hugely obese and disgusting and ugly I was and how ashamed he was to be seen in public with me, didn't want his friends to see what a cow he'd married, I believed him and damn near killed myself trying to lose enough weight to meet his standards. Meanwhile everyone else I knew thought I was anorexic and was trying to convince me to gain weight.

Met second husband a few months after first divorce... he filled me full of how beautiful I was, how sexy, how stunning, how amazing... so I was so happy to be "loved" for a change that I didn't really realize that he was fucking everything that moved.

(My problem is that I believe what people tell me. Must work on that...)

The icing on the cake, though, was the guy I met and was involved with for about two years... he'd just moved back to the states after living overseas when we hooked up. Spent all our spare time together and so forth... then he got relocated to a different city, asked me to move there with him, I said no, we broke up. We reconnected a few months later, and re-established things, long-distance relationship style. But he was a little more distant this time, not available to talk on the phone at all times, etc. I thought he'd met someone up there, he swore up and down that wasn't true, that it was just that he was reluctant to get so involved because he was so hurt that I'd refused to move with him and he was trying to protect his heart.

Then his wife called me... turns out he'd been married the WHOLE time... had left his wife in the country he moved to the States from, while he set things up for her and their kids to come over. He had sworn he was single, and I guess he was *geographically* single, but...

I still haven't figured out what he would have done if I had agreed to move with him. I suspect that he knew I wouldn't agree, and only asked me to set the stage for a "breakup" that he could say was my fault, but it's scary to think what I might have gotten myself in for if I'd said okay.

The worst part is, there is nothing I abhor more than adultery (perhaps child abuse); there is nothing more guaranteed to get me up on my high moral horse than someone sleeping with someone who's involved... and yet I STILL wound up being the one having an affair with a married man.

There is another whole huge subtext to that story that I doubt I will ever share publicly, because it's too shameful no matter how much I know rationally that it wasn't my fault, and that it reflects more on him than on me. So much of what he did was deliberate, calculated, premeditated and done for no other reason than to see just how badly he could fuck up my head. He posted on his blog later that his "experiment in how much emotional torture the human psyche can take" had been a huge success, but now he needed to have a new "subject." And I don't really doubt that he found one...

His wife, incidentally, stayed with him. She told me that he had told her she could leave and go back to her native country if she wanted, but that he wouldn't allow her to take the kids with him. The last time I talked to her, she said she was going to try to have an affair with a neighbor or someone at the college she was attending, to pay him back, but she was afraid he would kill her.

I've been unattached since then. My picker's apparently broken, and rather than risk more bullshit like that, I'm just staying off the field entirely until it gets fixed, or until someone with a working picker picks someone for me. (c:

[AhhDiddums]

Well, my ex started flirting around with some goth prick for a few weeks before she broke up with me (didn't know about it till after the break up), broke up with me ON THE PHONE (we had dated for quite some time, and spend nearly every single day together), and then I came to find out that she broke up with me for the single reason of fucking that douche bag.

After breaking up with me, she wanted nothing to do with me, and treated me like fucking shit. Suddenly when her "Friend-with-benefits" started being a douchebag to her, she started being all nice to me.

I passionately hate that slut. I have never, ever, hated anyone that much in my entire life.

[Elf_Girl]

Some are pretty freaky comments in here! Worst i've had is one of my ex's dumped me for my best friend...he got what he deserved though, she's naturally a flirt, but she didnt like him and told him to fuck off. Tried to get me back...well lets say he could go fuck himself back then :)

[Thyrd]

Most recent one was my worst. She started out nice and then suddenly turned into a total bitch for reasons which remain a mystery, even to her friends. People I really trust know the story.

[Sodapop]

JEZUM!

You ppl are a lot stronger than me. OMG some of these stories are, well, HARDCORE.

Im glad I started this thread. :pumpy: