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mea culpa

24-02-2005, 01:02 PM

Rule 1: Don't cheat. Rule 2: If you do cheat, don't take pictures. Rule 3: If you do cheat and take pictures, don't get caught. Rule 4: If you do cheat, take pictures and get caught, don't be dating this guy...

My girlfriend has been going on and on for months about how super impressed she is with her super smart, handsome, rich, ivy league educated married boss.

Whatever. It did not matter until she told me they fucked in Las Vegas last month during a business trip. Her digital camera also had 30 or so shots of them naked in the hotel room in various sex acts appearing very drunk and happy.

I found the disc last week and she admitted what happened. I told her the relationship is over and kicked her ass out.

I own the house which we have lived in for a bit over a year. I told her to pick up her shit today. Over the weekend I fowarded the pics to her boss, his wife (after I told her what happened over the phone), and her boss's boss. Well...Everyone who got the pics ain't too happy.

My now ex girlfriend's boss called me on Sunday and told me I ruined his marriage, job, and life and he said he was going to sue me after he beat the shit out of me and gouged out my eyes. Then he started to cry over the phone.

I laughed and told him he can come over my house any time he likes. I had a cop friend of mine call him back and scare the shit out of him regarding the threating phone calls. He left 3 threatening messages on my machine before I picked up.

My ex took the day off from work today to pick up her shit. Well...she loves clothes and shoes. Lots of good names too like Chanel, Guccci, Versace, etc.. All her good stuff I took to an uppper class consignment store so I can make a little cash and every other piece of her clothing from underwear to gym clothes were burned in a beautiful bonfire fueled with gasoline last night. I gave her back all her other stuff but not ONE stich of clothing.

For numbers....60 or so pairs of shoes and the designer duds....40 or so dresses/suits. When she asked for her clothes this morning I pointed to the remains of my bonfire. I thought she had a heart attack. I told her to get the fuck off my property and never speak to me again.

I also told her if she or her boss decide to seek revenge on me her digital pics from Vegas as well as the 10 or so homemade porn films we personally made together could accidentally end up at her parents house or get splashed all over the internet.

She left numb. I feel much better now than I did last Friday.

My friends by the way always told me they thought she was a condesending bitch. They were right. I guess I just was use to the great sex. Now time to move on. I already have a date for Fri. with a hottie from my gym. She looks like Daisy Fuentes but with bigger tits. I will still watch my back for a while but if they try anything. I will be ready. Thanks for letting me rant. It has been a shitty 5 days.

taken from here (http://washingtondc.craigslist.org/about/best/bos/55265713.html)

Asmodeus

24-02-2005, 01:53 PM

sounds like me, tho I'd be posting the pics and films on the net anyways

Tigress

24-02-2005, 02:18 PM

AWESOME revenge! The best way to get a cheater is to humiliate them the way they humiliated you when you found out - priceless!

karmacoma

24-02-2005, 02:31 PM

that is a fuckin awesome story. The guy was just as much of a cunt though..

His relationship with his ex-girlfriend stunk of objectifacation.

She was a fuckin' bitch for doin' what she did yes but burning her clothes......?

I think apart from the burning and selling of her clothes (unless they were bought by him) everyhing he did had a reasonable degree of justifacation. I like his style though with sending the photos around.

About the objectifacation thing......it sounds as though this guy really objectifies his women. Hence the comment about his new date having big tits. Relationships that involve a large degree of objectifaction are toxic, to say the least, and it never suprises me that they end up with one of the partners sleeping with another person.

I mean with such a mentality, you have to expect that sooner or later someone is going to trade their car in for something that is newer and better regardless on how long you have been driving your old car.

Up_All_Night

24-02-2005, 02:36 PM

this thread is useless without pics!

good revenge though

The_Kingpin

24-02-2005, 03:15 PM

i guess the moral of this story is always have something incriminating about the person your involved with. just in case they screw you over

SuCC

24-02-2005, 03:33 PM

That guy was very cool-headed. Sweet :D No less should have been done.

sperm

24-02-2005, 03:44 PM

hottie from my gym. She looks like Daisy Fuentes but with bigger tits.

This guy is a total tool. He deserved to be fucked over again for this petty revenge and over the top meaness, and I'm betting he hasn't learnt his lesson over women either with his next tail he is chasing :rolleyes:

SuCC

24-02-2005, 03:46 PM

So if you're cheated on or are married to an adulterer, the offenders shouldn't be punished. /Sucks to be you

sperm

24-02-2005, 03:59 PM

I was with the guy when he kicked her out, and sent the incriminations to her and her boss; sending it to the bosses wife was a little too much, but acceptable.....

From there on I was hoping someone would smash his nuts between two cement blocks!! Piss the woman off if shes no good for you, but did he really need to cause so much grief and pain ? Sure she gutted their relationship in a heartless manner, but him acting just as selfishly makes me understand how the love ended.
Karmacoma was right about the objectification, this guy seems to think he owned his ex-girlfriend, and was well within his 'rights' to do everything unhumanly possibly to make any of her future life unhappy as possible.

It's brain-dead, non-understanding, vengeful people that makes the way we deal with each other and the world such a hate filled place.

wtf was wrong with "JUST MOVE ON" ??

karmacoma

24-02-2005, 04:11 PM

fucking "AMEN" sperm

SuCC

24-02-2005, 04:23 PM

sending it to the bosses wife was a little too much, but acceptableI disagree. It was mandatory: The wife deserved to know her husband was an adulterer and untrustworthy. She deserved to know this as did anyone else including Boss-of-boss. People should know their character, just like employers should know someone is a murderer or pedophile.

Karmacoma was right about the objectification, this guy seems to think he owned his ex-girlfriend, and was well within his 'rights' to do everything unhumanly possibly to make any of her future life unhappy as possible.

It's brain-dead, non-understanding, vengeful people that makes the way we deal with each other and the world such a hate filled place.
how can you minimise the impact on an individual, marriage and family of adultery, while making out that the boss and girlfriend were the victims? Makes no sense unless you believe or are inclined toward adultery.

I murder someone.........."wtf was wrong with "JUST MOVE ON" ??" Sounds stupid. Is stupid

fucking "AMEN" sperm
If you agree with sperm you are a tool.

Tigress

24-02-2005, 04:35 PM

I agree with SuCC. The wife is the first person who should have been told. She had a right to know what was going on - how the hell was that going too far. Hide it from her so the boss could do it to her again?!?

And "JUST MOVE ON"?!? My God, the guy just found photos! He is feeling hurt, angry, deceived...if she didn't think about him while fucking some other guy, why should he care about her material possessions such as clothes that can always be replaced. His trust can't be replaced as easily.

All cheaters can go to hell!

For the record...yes, I was cheated on. My first boyfriend got his ex-girlfriend pregnant while I was seeing him!

24-02-2005, 04:37 PM

Fuck 'em.

If someone fucks you over, they'd better be ready when the shit hits the fan.

Personally i wouldn't have gone that far, maybe. As I see it though, when someone cheats on you they lose their rights to 'fair'.

Cassa

24-02-2005, 04:39 PM

Why add more hate? It's not necessary. He could have got out with his dignity intact but now he just looks like a vindictive asshole. I certainly wouldn't date someone who did something like that - not because I'd be worried they'd do it to me, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who had such a destructive and hateful streak in them.

24-02-2005, 04:47 PM

Damn straight it's neccessary, it makes you feel better and gives you a good story.

sperm

24-02-2005, 04:53 PM

I disagree. It was mandatory: The wife deserved to know her husband was an adulterer and untrustworthy.

At this point the guy has intruded into someone else's relationship, and not his own personal business. He might have been feel vindicated letting the wife know about her husband's misdeed, but I doubt his motives was 'being a good citizen'. But quite obviously he has now brought another relationship into disaster, perhaps uneedingly. His interference has agressively pitched two people into the fray against each other, in what may have been resolved in much better concillatory and controlled mechanisms. Their marriage was a delicate bond between two adults, not to be toyed with and turned upside on his whim. My point is, he let another person into undeserved assured misery (boss wife), when any other number of possible outcomes may have been reached if he didnt force the issue.

She deserved to know this as did anyone else including Boss-of-boss. People should know their character, just like employers should know someone is a murderer or pedophile.

By my recollection adultery has been repealed as a 'crime' in most modern nations. Mandatory stonings, fiery tire necklaces and scarlet letters went out with witch burnings and the inquistion.

how can you minimise the impact on an individual, marriage and family of adultery, while making out that the boss and girlfriend were the victims?

I believe the first victim in this story was the guys feelings of betrayal, nothing else. It was his choice to broadcast any perception of inadequacy or shame to the people around him. At the point the boss is torn between anger, confusion and grief I believe he has become a victim, the girlfriend equally when 'love' so easily is replaced by bitter hate on burning her clothes. Who possibly gains by that ?
But lets make this clear, the boss and girlfriend percepitated the chain of events on everyone.

Makes no sense unless you believe or are inclined toward adultery.

Interesting assumption and poorly veiled insult that I have somehow lesser values than yourself. I can't say I have ever cheated or been cheated on, but I do know what I consider is reasonable compassion and empathy towards others. Obviously no-one can claim a cornerstone on righteousness, everyone is entitled to their own opinions and ideas of justice.

I murder someone.........."wtf was wrong with "JUST MOVE ON" ??" Sounds stupid. Is stupid
Now you have become fatuous. Ending an existence is a long stretch from making some guy realise whatever he has been doing wasn't what his partner wanted and she had to go elsewhere. :rolleyes:

Cassa

24-02-2005, 04:55 PM

How's he going to feel later though? Proud that he made a large dent into the task of wrecking someone's life? She might have cheated but she's still human and he did love her once. I mean fuck, it's not like someone raped his mother and nailed her to his mailbox. He got cheated on - it happens every single day to thousands of people and I doubt all of them feel the need to destroy all of their posessions and wreck someone else's marriage into the bargain. The fact that he felt like he needed to respond that way shows that he a) has an anger problem and b) possibly a superiority complex - 'you're not going to do that to ME and get away with it you fucking bitch'.

I've not been in his situation and I hope I never will be, but if I ever WAS, I hope I'd have enough common sense to know that acting so destructively towards someone else will only make things worse in the long run.

sperm

24-02-2005, 05:01 PM

+rep to you cassa, right now I'm in awe at how your mind works...... :cool:

bund

24-02-2005, 05:07 PM

She had fun being fucked up the arse in Vegas by her boss and taking photos of the action. He had fun by starting a big bonfire in the back yard.

I don't see the problem here. Everyone seems to have had some fun.

In Syria he could have set his adulterant wife’s underwear alight with her still wearing them. That would have constituted an 'Honor Killing'.

Thing is though the gyms in Damascus aren't filled with women with big tits. Just guys with moustaches.

thingy

24-02-2005, 05:11 PM

It depends on how "evil" you perceive cheating to be. Love is a strong feeling which should be honoured. Cheating is scum in my mind, nothing more. I believe he was right in letting the wife know about the cheating. He was not the one who wrecked the marraige, it was the husband for cheating in the first place. If the wife and husband cannot sort it out, that is their issue. She has a right to know, and should have been informed.

As for the work colleagues of the two cheaters, that is going a bit too far. Destroying her posessions is going WAY too far.

SuCC

24-02-2005, 05:18 PM

The impact of adultery is being deflected. Ask any wife if she would want to know. Both you and Cassa are *simply* wrong and I'm 100% right :)

Cassa's arguments hold no water with me simply because she is an apologist. And I'm in awe at how both your minds work. Are you married? kids? Someone who is an adulterer is extremely likely to reoffend. Because there is no punishment in society it is rampant. If everyone were like this guy and had some guts as well as brains there would be less of it.

EDIT: Cassa your points were considered. 100% means 99% rounded up.

Cassa

24-02-2005, 05:21 PM

We're both married and sperm has kids, thanks.

I'm perfectly willing to let someone else hold their own opinions, this is just what I think - fine maybe I'm an apologist. I am a peacemaker, I avoid confrontations, I'm training to be a counsellor.

Unlike SOME people I don't claim to be 100% right and I'm certainly not in the business of telling other people that they're simply wrong, end of story. You might want to consider actually thinking about other people's points of view before shutting your mind off.

bund

24-02-2005, 05:22 PM

+rep to you cassa, right now I'm in awe at how your mind works...... :cool:

Um Sperm I am a little worried how your mind works.

Your registered zGeek name : Sperm
Your tag underneath your name : 3yr old inside
Your avitar : a small boy

Not sure about anyone else but "Sperm 3 year old in side + a picture of a young boy!!!!!!!!"

Sick fucker - in the words of your idol - Beat It.

Salted_Chipmunk

24-02-2005, 05:23 PM

Damn straight it's neccessary, it makes you feel better and gives you a good story.

Word to the m, the o, the t, the h, the e, the r, the f, the u, the c, the k, the e to the r.

If you say that this was over the top and he overacted, can everyone in this thread say that they have never ever overacted in some shape or form in their life???

Didn't think so.

Ash_Housewares

24-02-2005, 05:23 PM

this sounds more like a wish fulfillment rant than actual events to me.

if it is true, the guy seriously over reacted and i agree with cassa that he sounds like he has anger and inferiority issues (probably still the case even if this is fictional)

bund

24-02-2005, 05:24 PM

We're both married and sperm has kids, thanks.

.

SPERM HAS KIDS ??????????????????

I am calling DOCS - no wait they won't do anything.

Pirate can you help?

Cassa

24-02-2005, 05:24 PM

Ash: I'm thinking it doesn't sound entirely truthful either.

SuCC

24-02-2005, 05:33 PM

Street justice works like a charm.

Movius

24-02-2005, 05:36 PM

Arson, theft, extortion. Raw, he is hardcore. Sounds like the kind of max hardcore rap man that i would want to bust rhymes at my next house party.

24-02-2005, 05:42 PM

If someone cheated on me i would want to DESTROY them. Yes I'm vindictive, and to be honest, and i am being totally honest here, if I looked back at what a mess i made of someones life after they'd cheated on me i'd be GLAD.

I'm not a perfect person and never will be, most of the time i do the right thing. Cross me however and be very sure you'll get yours.

Destroying her shit? Telling her boss's boss? Telling the guy's wife? I'd call that fall-out. Didn't want that to happen? Break up with someone THEN go fuck your boss.

jacko

24-02-2005, 06:15 PM

superb effort,absolutley outstanding i love it
YOU PLAY - YOU PAY

sperm

24-02-2005, 06:33 PM

SPERM HAS KIDS ??????????????????

I am calling DOCS - no wait they won't do anything.

Pirate can you help?

The kid in the pic is me aged 3yo. The pun I'm making is against the 'intel inside' catch-phrase and that we all have an inner child.

I have two boys, aged 4yo and 2yo, they are my own little mini-me, and the start of my dark army of destruction. They are the coolest pint-sized dudes.
I have been devotely married to the one woman I have only ever been with, and this year will mark our happy 10th wedding anniversary. I would truly be shattered, lost and betrayed if she decided I was no longer the one for her to the point she dishonestly pursued others secretly and didn't try to sort things out with our own relationship first. Any real relationship is cemented with communication, tolerance and the best interests of the other.

I think the fact this went off-topic, and descended into calling me a kiddy-fiddler, is indictive that some people experience over-inflated feelings of own self worth and values, and believe the world should be enforced with their ideals as the one and only possible truth. :rolleyes:

Religion anyone ?
:fu:

druckfugged

24-02-2005, 07:57 PM

She can sue for the cost of her clothing and lodge a writ against him regards the photos, so if he did release them he'd be in all kinds of shit. I actually hope she does. Petty wanker

Salted_Chipmunk

24-02-2005, 08:23 PM

The kid in the pic is me aged 3yo. The pun I'm making is against the 'intel inside' catch-phrase and that we all have an inner child.

I have two boys, aged 4yo and 2yo, they are my own little mini-me, and the start of my dark army of destruction. They are the coolest pint-sized dudes.
I have been devotely married to the one woman I have only ever been with, and this year will mark our happy 10th wedding anniversary. I would truly be shattered, lost and betrayed if she decided I was no longer the one for her to the point she dishonestly pursued others secretly and didn't try to sort things out with our own relationship first. Any real relationship is cemented with communication, tolerance and the best interests of the other.

I think the fact this went off-topic, and descended into calling me a kiddy-fiddler, is indictive that some people experience over-inflated feelings of own self worth and values, and believe the world should be enforced with their ideals as the one and only possible truth. :rolleyes:

Religion anyone ?
:fu:

Some people just dont get it do they.

Sperm is a dude, the poster in question should not really jump to conclusions without prior knowledge.

scathing

24-02-2005, 08:30 PM

Payback's a bitch.

If someone you care for hurts you deeply and betrays your trust, then it tends to fuck with your head and you'll do things to get back at them and let them feel your hurt.

To quote Chris Rock (and others):

"Now I'm not saying he should have [done that]..............but I understand."

Its nice to see people backing up the original perpetrator of the crime and forgetting about the original victim. She kept going on to her partner about how wonderful some other guy was (which has to play in the mind of anyone in a relationship) and then he finds pictures of them bumping uglies, but everyone's all boo-fucking-hoo when she and the adulterer get burnt by the consequences of their actions? Why don't the lot of you go to Prospect Resovoir? There's a water shortage on, so cry me a fucking river in a catchment area and do something useful for a change.

And as for the object of this guy's "objectification", she was no pinnacle of virtue either. She breaks the trust and bond that two people in a relationship are meant to have, quite wantonly it would seem, and that's fine. Destroy some of her material possessions and she almost has a heart attack. Where the fuck are your bleeding hearts for the guy that got cheated on by his materialistic whore girlfriend?

Oh wait. Being consistent in picking on peoples' personality flaws just gets in the way of talking a whole bunch of shit.

And as for letting the boss' wife know, I think that's perfectly legitimate. Good intentions from the sender or otherwise, she has a right to know that her husband has been diddling the help. Or maybe you think you'd be better off not knowing your significant other has had a dirty weekend in Vegas with someone they spend 8 hours a day with.

druid

24-02-2005, 08:33 PM

If you say that this was over the top and he overacted, can everyone in this thread say that they have never ever overacted in some shape or form in their life???

Didn't think so.

Just like no one in this thread has never objectified another person. Instead they have seeked contact with someone they thought acted interestingly and then engaged in a conversation to see if they are compatible purely on a platonic level.

When asked about the potential relationship by friends no one has ever described the looks of the person they are interested in. Instead they have produced the meeting minutes from the last date and LOUDLY described how describing someone's looks is objectification and if anyone does that they clearly have issues.

minorproblem

24-02-2005, 08:34 PM

She deserved everything she got, and so did her boss. The moment they cheated. Personally thought i think the boss deserved it the most because he was married. But she knew he was married too most probibly so, she deserved just as bad. Cheating is utter bullshit and i personally think anyone who cheats deserves what they get "so long as it isnt physical injury" But, if you do that and not only that but she had the hide to take pictures and keep them around. I think i am a very mean person because i would have done the same *except i wouldnt of burnt her cloths i would of just thrown them all on road outside* But i definatly would of informed his wife and her boss etc etc. And kicked her out.

fenderbasher

24-02-2005, 08:56 PM

Some ancillary points:
These days, most cuckolded husbands would've beat the living shit out of the wife and the boss if not outright killed them; this guy chose to vent his outrage in more... um... creative ways.
The wife of the boss had a right to know in case she was wondering about the odorous discharge she has that "just won't clear up" or the weird canker sores that flare up in "those sensitive areas" every now and then, or "how in the world does someone get warts THERE??"

and3w

24-02-2005, 09:01 PM

Scathing & minor, I'm with you all the way with this one; it has nothing to do with punishment, it has to do with deep pain. When you are in as much emotional pain as this person obviously would have been you do tend to strike out in any way possible; I'm not saying it's right, but it is a purely human thing to do.
I think it is better to strike back in this way than to beat the shit out of her!
Pain as emotionally nasty as this causes people to act irrationally, it is normal human behaviour.

The Cunt

24-02-2005, 09:46 PM

if you want to be a real cunt then you'd not reveal to the soon to be ex or her boss or anyone else about what has happened... except for the bosses wife.

together you plan and discuss his demise. this may take weeks, even months.

the plan may be for plenty of photo taking opportunities whilst fornicating between yourself and the bosses wife. or it may not be part of the bitter face slap that you're going to deliver, but you fuck anyway, just for the hell of it.

Ziggythecablemo

24-02-2005, 11:00 PM

Some here have said that contacting the guy's wife was going too far - I can't agree there at all, the manager was willing to fuck up this guy's relationship - he should expect no courtesy in response.

These problems arise when people shirk their responsibility to others – they demand to be treated as adults but then they don’t behave like them, they know that if they fuck around it destroys other people’s lives. If they’re going to fuck around – be honest about it, don’t have affairs and make promises (like promising to be in a relationship or getting married).

Dumping the girlfriend (that’s a given, you don’t know WHERE she’s been now) and informing the wife of that cheating fucker is about right I think – the wife had the right to know as they’ve both decided to disrespect their own respective relationships they should suffer all the consequences. People do shit when they think they can get away with it, obviously those two thought they did….

HAL

24-02-2005, 11:10 PM

I would have given her stuff back and said good riddance.

This guy is a wanker for two reasons 1)His ego and 2)He goes to the gym (these two can intertwine more than occasionally). As far as I can see, 2 idiots got fucked on, fantastic.

karmacoma

24-02-2005, 11:17 PM

at the end of the day what the girl did was wrong and what the guy did in response was wrong.

Why did they do such wrong things.....because they lack control of their ego's.

When I read the story it played out like a Jerry Springer show.

Ok 'your' girlfriend fucked someone else and don't go using the word love when referring to the situation because it is clearly one of attachment and objectifaction.

I feel for the guy. I feel for the girl.

Its funny, the people who seem to agree with what that guy did to the girl seem to be the same people who pay out on others for having an opinion when they believe their opinion should be the only one heard <looks at SuCC>

minorproblem

24-02-2005, 11:58 PM

Its funny, the people who seem to agree with what that guy did to the girl seem to be the same people who pay out on others for having an opinion when they believe their opinion should be the only one heard

I’ve done this when? Also I think that sometimes thought the only way to show you have an opposing opinion is to payout on someone else’s opinion otherwise it wouldn't be a debate it would be some political correct thingy.. (I personally hate the idea behind being politically correct).

and3w

25-02-2005, 12:06 AM

Thing with this is there are two totally opposing views here and they boil down to people seeing things either logically or emotionally. Personally, in this situation I would see things emotionally..I think it would be very hard, if you were actually involved in this situation, or one like it, to see things and react to them in a logical manner.
Karmacoma, I don't know what the fuck you are on about, and I don't think you do either...

frednurk

25-02-2005, 12:17 AM

Just one for the mix. Make of it what you will.

More children are born in Australia in September and October than at any other time of the year.

A staggering one in nine Australian children are born into families where the father is not the childs biological father.

and3w

25-02-2005, 01:21 AM

Lot's of people get pissed at xmas & new year and shag without condoms?

frednurk

25-02-2005, 01:49 AM

Make of it what you will. The statistics are quite compelling on many levels in my view.

babarfloyd

25-02-2005, 06:44 AM

When I was 18 I was dating this girl who fucked pretty much everybody she could. She cheated on me pretty much daily. We broke up at one point and I saw this guy that she cheated on me with sitting in the front seat of his car with his ex-girlfriend that he was trying to get back together with.

I walked up to his side and stuck my hand in the window and said "Hey Ron, I just want to shake your hand." He said hi and asked what for so I said "For fucking my girlfriend while we were going out. You tried for years and you finally did it. Congrats!"

He sat there stunned for a few seconds and then muttered something like "I don't know what you're talking about." I turned to his ex-girlfriend and said "I'm sorry you had to hear it this way, but it's all true."

At this point he jumped out of the car and started raising his voice "What the fuck is your problem?" I calmly said "I don't have a problem." He yelled something like "I didn't touch her that night. I brought her back to the carnivale." I calmly replied "Interesting that you know what night I'm talking about since I didn't even mention a night or anything." I turned to the ex-girlfriend and said "See. I told you it was true."

Now he was up in my face going "I'm going to kick your ass!" and he could have very easily. He was several years older than me and a hell of a lot bigger. I calmly said "Go ahead. Kick my ass. I'm not going to fight back." He stood there steaming for a good 30 seconds and then just got back in his car and drove away. I yelled out Bye as they were driving off.

A few years later I saw his ex-girlfriend at a party and she came over and thanked me for doing that. She said they were about to get back together and what I did changed her mind.

Maybe the wife of the boss will thank this guy a few years from now, too.