I've lost that loven' feelen'.... [Archive]

Sutter

25-02-2005, 08:23 AM

...also lusty feelings. In fact it's been quite a while since I felt attracted to anyone, or horny. This is only and issue now, as there's a potential realtionship on the horizen and I'm feeling nothing. I fear screwing this up with my current feelings/state then having all my normal emotions return later. :(

Anyone had the same thing happen?
Advice?

gunsella

25-02-2005, 08:31 AM

viagra

Asmodeus

25-02-2005, 08:33 AM

as your doctor, i suggest drinking heavily. maybe even loosening the fuck up. having sublimated sexual energies into oter areas due to a dry spell isn't a bad thing per se, it lessens the stink of desperation.

Fuzzy Dice

25-02-2005, 08:44 AM

Yeah, it happend to me once too. I was worried that there might be something wrong with me, both physically and mentally. At the same time, I was stressed RIGHT the fuck out due to money. More specifically, the lack therof and its potential implications regarding my acadamic career. Also, I wasn't getting enough exercise and my roomate was a depressing bastard who always tried to tag along when I went out AND owed me money. He wrapped his car around a light pole coming home drunk from a party. That made me feel a little better. He survived just fine. His trial results are still pending, though. He would so be someone's bitch. He's a pretty boy.

I graduated, got a job and started exercising more. End result: horny and happy again.

Sutter

25-02-2005, 09:00 AM

Hmmm, I exercise plenty and finances are good ATM. Can't say I really stressed about anything. Fuzzy: did you get better?

Viagra would just give me bone. I've no trouble getting that, just the desire to use it on someone.

Asmodeus

25-02-2005, 09:25 AM

maybe you're gay?

Sutter

25-02-2005, 09:35 AM

maybe you're gay?

Nah, tried that, didn't work out.

Fuzzy Dice

25-02-2005, 09:38 AM

How well do you eat? Regarding the four food groups, etc. Malnutrition is possible. A low grade viral infection, something without overt symptoms can depress you too. And you know, sometimes people just get down.

Chocoholic

25-02-2005, 09:48 AM

My advice is get really really worked about something. Get involved in political or religious conversation, things that really make your blood boil.

Last year I pretty much went numb for a few months due to not wanting to deal with my problems. I pretty much felt the same and knew I had some problems. Then one day at work I had enough and I lost it. I was so mad but guess what I felt something!!

Asmodeus

25-02-2005, 09:55 AM

occams razor would say "Maybe you're just not into it right now"

ms edeity

25-02-2005, 10:06 AM

i had a relationship where the flirting buildup thing was all good and he was a great guy and we're still friends but i could never bring myself to be intimate with him....just never was there. you might want a relationship with this girl but if the spark's not there, it's not you it's just not there. wait for the girl who gives good....impressions.

or maybe you're gay.

ms edeity

25-02-2005, 10:55 AM

p.s i'll try hooking you up with gertie...if i could get an erection i'd have one for her. plus your avatars would look so cute together.

Salted_Chipmunk

28-02-2005, 01:35 PM

Don't worry about it dude, its just a stage where your not attracted to anyone.

Hell, i have done this heaps of times in my short stay on this planet. I tend not to get into a relationship unless i get to know the person really well beforehand.

Wait it out, and be happy that you don't have to worry about all the crap that you have to put up with from females.

Go out with your mates, have fun, drink lots and be merry. I guarentee that one day out of the blue, you'll see someone or do something and you'll be back on your merry way and the feelings will come back.

I'd be worried more if you were in a depressive state.

If you feel nothing towards the other party, it's a good indication that nothing would come about in the relationship.

wanderlust

06-03-2005, 06:41 PM

Here here to all of those of replies.

I wont advise since I don't know you, but mojo does get affected when you arent feeling good about stuff, even subconcious(I can't spell) stuff you might not even realise you have going on.

Psychologist might help if it's drastic. Otherwise, yeah, lifestyle changes as the others said. Oh yeah, and porn and someone you are actually really attracted to.
Just coz someone is good looking, it doesnt mean they do it for you.

metalhed00

07-03-2005, 09:53 AM

I hear ya man. Right now I am in the longest streak since I was 16 (I am 26 now) without a girl or getting any. The only girl I kissed was a psycho ex at New Year's. Be patient, that's what I'm trying to do. I know its tough.

royale

07-03-2005, 10:17 AM

Go out and get yourself a great blowjob- you may have to force yourself, but do it anyway. If I have found one things that best cures a sagging labido it is a great blowie. (Just try to make sure its a good one, a bad one will have the opposite effect.)

Afro88

07-03-2005, 10:29 AM

SamBo

07-03-2005, 10:31 AM

I felt like this once.... was really hard to snap out of... funny enough, I stopped thinking about it (and stressing about it) and soon after I just got over that feeling. Was quite odd actually... but welcomed.

Cordis

07-03-2005, 10:41 AM

I completely understand what your talking about, I am also kind of going through that feeling at the moment. But as Sambo said in the previous post if you stop thinking about it you feel better. I think I have it at the moment as I am soooo bored with with work and my social life.

mcrand

09-03-2005, 07:55 AM

Depression could most certainly be a cause of your condition. I would suggest speaking with therapist and not ones on this site.

Tintin

14-03-2005, 10:57 PM

Embrace the asexuality... see what happens. We can compare notes on this.

King_Crud

16-03-2005, 04:19 PM

i'm feeling the same at the moment but for me i think it's a stress thing, I've got a lot on at the moment. The g/f gets annoyed sometimes

mjolnir

17-03-2005, 07:05 AM

aye, but would life be better without the lass?

wanderlust

18-03-2005, 08:40 PM

I need a man. *sigh*

Where the fuck are all the men?! I'm semi hot. WHERE THE FUCK IS MY MAN?

Tintin

18-03-2005, 10:23 PM

Word on the street is a Melbourne ZMeet is coming up with a high positive male/female ratio (as per usual).

wanderlust

18-03-2005, 10:32 PM

Yes, it's all about playing the numbers. Surely if it is even, then we can just pair off. Or I could just ask all the zgeekers if they like me and one may bite. That failing, I could just hang around until the beer goggles are thick enough and the tender calls last drinks.

Sutter

18-03-2005, 10:37 PM

wanderlust: if you want it, I'm sure you'll get it. at least turn up to the Mexican night and look at the offerings, eh?
I think the ratios are boys/girls = 10/2.
What do you say TT?

wanderlust

18-03-2005, 10:48 PM

Whats a TT? (not full geek)

There are 5 boys going? 10/2 = 5

BtrFly

18-03-2005, 10:50 PM

i have lost the ability to feel anything. all i feel now is numb. no emotion, no lust, no nothing.

i hate this feeling :(

Sutter

18-03-2005, 11:02 PM

As you're a male zgeeker, I'll assume you also like your pr0n. Try going for as long as you can without any sexual stimulation (porn, masturbation etc.). I reckon after about 2-3 weeks of this your libido will start screaming at you to go for that chick you're almost in a relationship with.

nah, I was a boot camp for 1 & 1/2 months. no touching ANYTHING there. blam I say to your theory.

Go out and get yourself a great blowjob- you may have to force yourself, but do it anyway.

Crazy thing: I'm a geek. An amazingly handsome geek, but a geek. I find it really hard to talk to girls if I'm thinking anything near sexual. I've never picked up in my life.

Whats a TT?

TinTin

i have lost the ability to feel anything. all i feel now is numb. no emotion, no lust, no nothing.

We're twins! Yay!

wanderlust

20-03-2005, 06:42 PM

As stated above, I've been hanging out for a bit of lovin for a while, but I think I've crossed the line. I think I may be over it. It all just seems too difficult, I think I may be happier alone!

Tigress

28-03-2005, 10:05 PM

I have lost my mojo too, but I think a lot of it comes down to self-protection and avoiding being hurt again. Give yourself time and it will come back. At least, I hope it will :confused:

pliskin

28-03-2005, 10:40 PM

i just find it difficult to meet females i can become interested in. i work over 50 hrs per week, work nights tues-sat and find nightclubbing and going to bars ok, but its not the place to meet ppl or be able to have an interesting conversation. i broke up from a 4.5 yr relationship in oct 2003. since then ive had a few drunken snogs, been on 2 proper dates, and had sex with an old friend i hadnt seen in yrs twice. it got wierd and i havent seen her again.
at 1st i thought how hard can it be, id had other relationships b4, but for some reason now, it all seems different. its like ive forgotten how to read " signals" or just totally mis-interpret them and make a twit of myself.
there has been 1 girl recntly that i was kinda interested in , but i found it difficult to talk to her. then i found out she was kinda interested in me. but as both of us had been not too sure of the other ppls feelings we kind of lost interest in each other. know it seems awkward whenever i see her

Tigress

28-03-2005, 10:49 PM

Oct 2003 isn't really that long ago. My break up was just over a year ago with someone I was with for 3 1/2 year and despite a few snogs and a random shag (that was awful, mind you - second worst ever!!!) I am in the same situation.

Mate, that sucks with that chick! My suggestion - go to the pub with her for dinner, have a couple of drinks and just sort that shit out. Life is too short if you both are/were interested in each other.

wanderlust

28-03-2005, 10:52 PM

Those pesky standards are getting in the way pilskin. Annoying isnt it?

pliskin

28-03-2005, 11:28 PM

what is now also a problem is she works mon-fri .only time we ever saw each other was sundays for a few hours at a time

wanderlust

28-03-2005, 11:41 PM

Timing and functionality is a bitch. If you fall madly for eachother, and you really want it, you will find a way to make it work.

Up_All_Night

29-03-2005, 01:29 AM

I have lost my mojo too, but I think a lot of it comes down to self-protection and avoiding being hurt again. Give yourself time and it will come back. At least, I hope it will :confused:

im kind of in a similar situation, this feels the most right for me.
If anyone remember an old thread of mine and my crazy ex's, it fits in, kinda fucked me up in nov and i still iant recovered and not wanting to get hurt fits in.
My problem, is, i have horny as fuck, if i go out and i want to, i pash a chick, no problems doing that, biggest problem is, i think, i want a girlfriend, but ill pash a chick, a cute chick, but then i cant be fucked persuing them or even seeing, calling, catching up sober. thats where my loving feelings gone. the desire to be proactive to get someone. But then i'm out drinking and i just wanna pash/fuck or whatever. one night stand thing aint my scene really, but its on my mind when i pash the chicks, haha...
chick at the moment thats keen, but i am like, nah shes too young, just turned 18, i;m 21, pashed her a couple weeks in a row now out drinking at usual, but i dont know with my lack of motivation im worried that it dont feel right to persure, so i shouldnt, and i wouldnt want to hurt her sort of thing. she aint bad though, i will say that!

but lprotecting myself of being hurt seems to fit

but good thread here, hadnt read it until then

Glompbot

29-03-2005, 08:04 PM

My last proper relationship ended october 7th 2002.

I had a kinda sorta relationship that never really got off the ground... it lasted 2 months... i think we saw each other about 5 times.

Most recently i've asked someone to be in a relationship with me... and they've said no. First person I felt much of anything for since the relationship that ended in 02.... and it sucks.

wanderlust

29-03-2005, 08:35 PM

It's all just a bit tiring.

I just need a partner in crime to out and be naughty and get messy with for a while.

Up_All_Night

29-03-2005, 08:50 PM

times like this though, when you cant be fucked wtih a raltionship, how'd you go about getting someone for say, some fun?

Holster

29-03-2005, 08:52 PM

My last serious relationship ended late 2002 since then the closest I have come to a relationship was a 3 month fling last year.
It's not the lack of sex drive that stops me looking for another partner, just a major CBF feeling about the whole thing.
There has only been 1 guy that I think I would be willing to put an effort into, but it will never happen so meh...

Tintin

29-03-2005, 11:45 PM

times like this though, when you cant be fucked wtih a raltionship, how'd you go about getting someone for say, some fun?
I hope that was meant as a rhetorical question. :smith:

Lina

15-07-2005, 03:27 PM

I would say the key is not to get stressed about it but then you might get stressed about being stressed and worsen the problem. Um...good luck (don't stress!) :)

mrwest

15-07-2005, 03:45 PM

Jabro

15-07-2005, 03:58 PM

damn nightshifts, ruin almost every good chance to go out and find some ladies.

Sutter

15-07-2005, 04:00 PM

Mmm thread nerco....
Update: was seeing girl in question, took things gently, waited to see if I got some feeling back.
The musical episode of Buffy seems apt: "...going trough the motions...."
Maybe I need someone to challange me, or I'm in love with my sadness, and don't know how to break out of it. Maybe I just need a pair of black rimmed glasses and some Linken Park....who knows?

Sutter

15-07-2005, 04:01 PM

I don't smoke weed, BTW.

Mr Bigglesworth

15-07-2005, 11:10 PM

I know its tough.

I bet you its hard as well, long and hard.....

I speak from experience, im 26 years 10 months and have never had any real relationship with any girl, let alone any naughtiness. Not that I havent had my chances, but it seems the girls I like dont like me, and the girls that like me piss me off.

pliskin

15-07-2005, 11:28 PM

not sure what advice to give u dude.
have u just been getting no urge at all????
u say it aint stress, but if u dont even feel the need to clean the pipes once in a while it must be something.
ive been under heaps of pressure at work lately, long hours, killer stress, lack of proper sleep. but my sex drive has still been high. just a pity i havent been getting any

a diet low in vitamins/iron ( still a vego??? ) is a major killer of sex drive as well...

mrwest

21-07-2005, 01:48 PM

a diet low in vitamins/iron ( still a vego??? ) is a major killer of sex drive as well...
Good call pliskin. A bad diet can leave you feeling flat, uninspired and unemotional. HedWeb (http://www.moodfoods.com/) have a good article on using foods to alter how you feel, might be worth checking out. The odd multivitamin can do wonders as well.